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Now before you read this, please don't make the assumption that i am complaining or that i am a whiney little baby, because it simply isn't the case.

Tonight, i was let go from my job at a local supermarket. I had only been working there about a month, maybe a little less. I was in complete shock when the manager called me into her office and said " im sorry but we have to terminate you" I was in such disbelief, i wondered if i had just hallucinated and if that had really just happened.

Now i was a new worker there and the company had just been bought out by a larger corporation and because of this they brought in all sorts of policies and things. I know this because my best friend & his father both work there, before the company was bought out.

Anyways last weekend i was called into the office because according to them my job performance wasn't up to par and since every who starts there is on a 30 Day Probationary period they have the right to monitor what i do. Well let me say, that i have never had a complaint from a customer or co worker. I tried my hardest while i was there, and yes i admit i did make a few small mistakes, because theres certain things you have to do when stocking a shelve, and i had to get used to all the proper techniques and what not.

It was apparent that my crew chief, was a bit of an asshole, even on the first day that i was there, the kid i was working with specifically told me " the crew chief is an asshole so watch out for him." I swear that this guy busted my balls on the regular, but i figured it was because i was new. He seemed like a pissed off person in general though, and he would make a big deal out of a few minor mistakes that i would make.

Like during my second week they had me stocking U Boats of like 60, 70 products all by myself, and maybe out of all of those i incorrectly stocked maybe 2 or 3 things. There was one day where i wanted to punch my crew chief in his fuckin face, because of what he said. But i didn't i just sucked it up and said " this is my job, i just gotta do it and things will get easier."

Also, right around the time i got hired there was a threat of a strike by the workers and it came apparent they were looking to hire new people. They never even had a HIRING SIGN in the window, they basically called me out of the blue one day and asked if i wanted a job. I think that they over highered and realized this, so some people had to be " terminated' and since me or any of the other new hirees aren't eligable for the Union yet, they can terminate us whenever they want.

I just think its bullshit, because i went in there, even on days where i felt miserable and tried my hardest and did what i had to do. I got along with co workers and customers and just the other day my asshole crew chief told me i was doing better. So like i said it was a COMPLETE SHOCK when they told me that they were terminating me. My parents are shocked to & a little while after i got home, my dad called up the place and demanded an answer, but it just so happened the lady who terminated me hadjust left, so shes gonna call tommorrow. SHe will probably give my dad the same bullshit answer she gave me.

Another thing that sounds suspect about this is, the manager of the department i was in, supposidly said that i wasn;'t working up to par with their expectations, but i had only met him maybe 3 or 4 times, He was NEVER there when i worked, and she tried giving me this story that he checked one of the isles that i stocked, and when shementioned the product i told her that i had never stocked the product ONCE since i have been there, so i knew that story was bullshit. I would have perferred that they would have given me a straight foward , honest answer instead of the bullshit they fed to me. She also said that if i apply for another job, that i can use them as a reference. My mom was like if they thought i was a bad worker & fired me, why would they tell me that i could use them as a reference???

This all goes back to my theory that if there is a God that he hates me, and that nice guys always finish last. Im nice to everyone, not too many people consider me an asshole. I try to get along with everyone and help people out. And things just keep getting worse & worse & worse and im a complete mess.

Theres another negative thing that occured with some " friends" of mine recently, but i won't get into that since ive probably depressed/bored all of you enough already. I will say though, me & my friend basically were nice to these people ( this all has to do with music) and we gave them free things and such, and basically came at them witha friendly approach, but they act arrogant towards us for no reason.

but anywaysm so yeah, now im unemployed which i know is gonna make me feel worse and more depressed, and more DP/DR and weird.

i swear im starting to believe in the lyric " lifes a bitch and than you die"
 
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Now before you read this, please don't make the assumption that i am complaining or that i am a whiney little baby, because it simply isn't the case.

Tonight, i was let go from my job at a local supermarket. I had only been working there about a month, maybe a little less. I was in complete shock when the manager called me into her office and said " im sorry but we have to terminate you" I was in such disbelief, i wondered if i had just hallucinated and if that had really just happened.

Now i was a new worker there and the company had just been bought out by a larger corporation and because of this they brought in all sorts of policies and things. I know this because my best friend & his father both work there, before the company was bought out.

Anyways last weekend i was called into the office because according to them my job performance wasn't up to par and since every who starts there is on a 30 Day Probationary period they have the right to monitor what i do. Well let me say, that i have never had a complaint from a customer or co worker. I tried my hardest while i was there, and yes i admit i did make a few small mistakes, because theres certain things you have to do when stocking a shelve, and i had to get used to all the proper techniques and what not.

It was apparent that my crew chief, was a bit of an asshole, even on the first day that i was there, the kid i was working with specifically told me " the crew chief is an asshole so watch out for him." I swear that this guy busted my balls on the regular, but i figured it was because i was new. He seemed like a pissed off person in general though, and he would make a big deal out of a few minor mistakes that i would make.

Like during my second week they had me stocking U Boats of like 60, 70 products all by myself, and maybe out of all of those i incorrectly stocked maybe 2 or 3 things. There was one day where i wanted to punch my crew chief in his fuckin face, because of what he said. But i didn't i just sucked it up and said " this is my job, i just gotta do it and things will get easier."

Also, right around the time i got hired there was a threat of a strike by the workers and it came apparent they were looking to hire new people. They never even had a HIRING SIGN in the window, they basically called me out of the blue one day and asked if i wanted a job. I think that they over highered and realized this, so some people had to be " terminated' and since me or any of the other new hirees aren't eligable for the Union yet, they can terminate us whenever they want.

I just think its bullshit, because i went in there, even on days where i felt miserable and tried my hardest and did what i had to do. I got along with co workers and customers and just the other day my asshole crew chief told me i was doing better. So like i said it was a COMPLETE SHOCK when they told me that they were terminating me. My parents are shocked to & a little while after i got home, my dad called up the place and demanded an answer, but it just so happened the lady who terminated me hadjust left, so shes gonna call tommorrow. SHe will probably give my dad the same bullshit answer she gave me.

Another thing that sounds suspect about this is, the manager of the department i was in, supposidly said that i wasn;'t working up to par with their expectations, but i had only met him maybe 3 or 4 times, He was NEVER there when i worked, and she tried giving me this story that he checked one of the isles that i stocked, and when shementioned the product i told her that i had never stocked the product ONCE since i have been there, so i knew that story was bullshit. I would have perferred that they would have given me a straight foward , honest answer instead of the bullshit they fed to me. She also said that if i apply for another job, that i can use them as a reference. My mom was like if they thought i was a bad worker & fired me, why would they tell me that i could use them as a reference???

This all goes back to my theory that if there is a God that he hates me, and that nice guys always finish last. Im nice to everyone, not too many people consider me an asshole. I try to get along with everyone and help people out. And things just keep getting worse & worse & worse and im a complete mess.

Theres another negative thing that occured with some " friends" of mine recently, but i won't get into that since ive probably depressed/bored all of you enough already. I will say though, me & my friend basically were nice to these people ( this all has to do with music) and we gave them free things and such, and basically came at them witha friendly approach, but they act arrogant towards us for no reason.

but anywaysm so yeah, now im unemployed which i know is gonna make me feel worse and more depressed, and more DP/DR and weird.

i swear im starting to believe in the lyric " lifes a bitch and than you die"
 

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how about sometimes people do bad things? my daughter was hired for a high marketing position, did the new campaign ( which involved a company she had worked closely with before), busted her ass and did an hell of a job and was then called into the president's office and told they were downsizing and would not be needing her anymore. :evil: come to find out, this is done on a somewhat regular basis with in the marketing level of less then fair companies. this company is a household word...no fly by night deal. they saw on her resume what they needed at the time, hired her and then called the deal off. sucks, just like your story.

business, big and small can kick you to the curb. learn everything you can from the experience, use this information to ask questions for the next company you interview with and keep digging.

as my daughter has learned...it just ain't always fair.

head up, don't take it personally and use the "good reference" for your next job. btw, when applying for said next job never mention how the other place sucked or the supervisor sucked. they give you a great big zero for speaking poorly of a former company.

good luck come Monday. best day to get a new job!
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how about sometimes people do bad things? my daughter was hired for a high marketing position, did the new campaign ( which involved a company she had worked closely with before), busted her ass and did an hell of a job and was then called into the president's office and told they were downsizing and would not be needing her anymore. :evil: come to find out, this is done on a somewhat regular basis with in the marketing level of less then fair companies. this company is a household word...no fly by night deal. they saw on her resume what they needed at the time, hired her and then called the deal off. sucks, just like your story.

business, big and small can kick you to the curb. learn everything you can from the experience, use this information to ask questions for the next company you interview with and keep digging.

as my daughter has learned...it just ain't always fair.

head up, don't take it personally and use the "good reference" for your next job. btw, when applying for said next job never mention how the other place sucked or the supervisor sucked. they give you a great big zero for speaking poorly of a former company.

good luck come Monday. best day to get a new job!
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you meet gits everywhere, just a pity this one was your supervisor. throw yourself into getting a new job, at least you'll have a new boss
 

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you meet gits everywhere, just a pity this one was your supervisor. throw yourself into getting a new job, at least you'll have a new boss
 
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Oh, my friend, life is terribly unfair. And the work place is a minefield.

The good news is that when you find a job you like with people you really "fit" with, life is still Unfair, and you will have it EASIER than you really should.

You'll slide by in this world, have wonderful breaks and opportunities you don't deserve. And sometimes you'll get handed things on a silver platter JUST because somebody likes you.

Other times, you'll be misunderstood and mistreated and confused.

Just keep moving and keep your eyes open for the good stuff.

Overall, life is a blast. But give up any dreams of it being fair.

Peace,
Janine
 
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Oh, my friend, life is terribly unfair. And the work place is a minefield.

The good news is that when you find a job you like with people you really "fit" with, life is still Unfair, and you will have it EASIER than you really should.

You'll slide by in this world, have wonderful breaks and opportunities you don't deserve. And sometimes you'll get handed things on a silver platter JUST because somebody likes you.

Other times, you'll be misunderstood and mistreated and confused.

Just keep moving and keep your eyes open for the good stuff.

Overall, life is a blast. But give up any dreams of it being fair.

Peace,
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I hated all my supervisors in my first few jobs. Because you are young and new, they treat you like you are sh*t, totally disposable, and an absolute dumbass. The worst are those people that are absolute fuck*n idiots who you know are only your boss b/c they've been working there forever, and they get total power trips from telling you how stupid you are. I wish I could go back in time and tell every single one of those people to f*ck themselves and that I'm 500,000 times smarter than they are. I found the best jobs I had when I was young were when my bosses were only a few years older than me.
 

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I hated all my supervisors in my first few jobs. Because you are young and new, they treat you like you are sh*t, totally disposable, and an absolute dumbass. The worst are those people that are absolute fuck*n idiots who you know are only your boss b/c they've been working there forever, and they get total power trips from telling you how stupid you are. I wish I could go back in time and tell every single one of those people to f*ck themselves and that I'm 500,000 times smarter than they are. I found the best jobs I had when I was young were when my bosses were only a few years older than me.
 
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gimpy you know what the ironic thing is, my crewchief ( basically my boss, because the manager of my department was never there) is only 22, so you would figure he would be cool. But he was the exact opposite, not too many people liked him because he was a dick head. He walked around like he had a chip on his shoulder. Someone told me when he was like 20 he got his girlfriend pregnant and had to marry her. And he obviously didn't go to college so im sure he's pissed off because most people at his age are in college or trying to chase their dream and hes working as a supermarket crewchief. On break time we would all sit around, eat and him and some others would talk about stuff and mostly everything they said was NEGATIVE and they sounded like fuckin idiots. One of the other guys on the crew is some like 55 year old, who seems pissed off at the world to no end, when hes working he swears outloud and throws products around and hes basically always pissed off. Of course he doesn't get " terminated" or even warned because hes in the Union and hes been there for a while.

Corporations are bullshit

It sucks though because i can't stop thinking about it, i kinda feel like a failure. Its like wtf, i can't even keep a simple no brainer job for more than a month. And the thing that baffles me even more is that i didn't even do anything terribly wrong to get " terminated".
 
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gimpy you know what the ironic thing is, my crewchief ( basically my boss, because the manager of my department was never there) is only 22, so you would figure he would be cool. But he was the exact opposite, not too many people liked him because he was a dick head. He walked around like he had a chip on his shoulder. Someone told me when he was like 20 he got his girlfriend pregnant and had to marry her. And he obviously didn't go to college so im sure he's pissed off because most people at his age are in college or trying to chase their dream and hes working as a supermarket crewchief. On break time we would all sit around, eat and him and some others would talk about stuff and mostly everything they said was NEGATIVE and they sounded like fuckin idiots. One of the other guys on the crew is some like 55 year old, who seems pissed off at the world to no end, when hes working he swears outloud and throws products around and hes basically always pissed off. Of course he doesn't get " terminated" or even warned because hes in the Union and hes been there for a while.

Corporations are bullshit

It sucks though because i can't stop thinking about it, i kinda feel like a failure. Its like wtf, i can't even keep a simple no brainer job for more than a month. And the thing that baffles me even more is that i didn't even do anything terribly wrong to get " terminated".
 

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As my mom tells me, "Life is just one big failure. It's how you move past your failures that makes you a success."

You're young, SoulBro. Being fired from a job isn't the end of the world. Go find another job, work hard, and you'll be fine. Some jobs aren't for certain people. It takes some time to figure that out. Just work hard, that's the key. Employers often prefer someone who always works their heart out, even if they make mistakes, rather than some guy who may be more skilled but who has a bad attitude and takes his job for granted.
 

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As my mom tells me, "Life is just one big failure. It's how you move past your failures that makes you a success."

You're young, SoulBro. Being fired from a job isn't the end of the world. Go find another job, work hard, and you'll be fine. Some jobs aren't for certain people. It takes some time to figure that out. Just work hard, that's the key. Employers often prefer someone who always works their heart out, even if they make mistakes, rather than some guy who may be more skilled but who has a bad attitude and takes his job for granted.
 

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S. Brotha,

Sorry I didn't get a chance to talk to you about this on IM yesterday. I've been busy.
I had a summer job/internship back in the summer of 2001. Basically I wanted to find a job that I could get internship credit for, for school. So I found this Recruiting company through someone else I knew. It was a small branch with only like 3-4 employees at the location. But, they interviewed me and hired me for the summer.
Well, to make a long story short, I was filling out my time card one Friday and wrote the wrong number down and tried to write over it to correct it, cause I thought it was the okay thing to do. Well, apparently they were just looking for an excuse to let me go, cause they weren't doing so well as a company and couldn't afford to pay me, even for the summer. So he told me that they had to let me go cause it looked like I was lying on my time card, when in essence, I was just trying to correct a mistake I accidently made. It was complete BS! Basically they tired to say they were letting me go for the time card thing, when really it was because they weren't doing well as a company and couldn't afford me! It was wack and I was shocked and disturbed by it for a little while, but I got over it and it hasn't affected me since. Actually, I think the location went out of business cause they aren't listed anywhere in the phone book, etc any more.
But don't worry about it and don't let a bunch of a**holes who don't know sh** get you down. Just find yourself something else. It will be all good.
Thanks for sending those CDs out. I'll burn ya that Alchemist when I get it. Holla,

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S. Brotha,

Sorry I didn't get a chance to talk to you about this on IM yesterday. I've been busy.
I had a summer job/internship back in the summer of 2001. Basically I wanted to find a job that I could get internship credit for, for school. So I found this Recruiting company through someone else I knew. It was a small branch with only like 3-4 employees at the location. But, they interviewed me and hired me for the summer.
Well, to make a long story short, I was filling out my time card one Friday and wrote the wrong number down and tried to write over it to correct it, cause I thought it was the okay thing to do. Well, apparently they were just looking for an excuse to let me go, cause they weren't doing so well as a company and couldn't afford to pay me, even for the summer. So he told me that they had to let me go cause it looked like I was lying on my time card, when in essence, I was just trying to correct a mistake I accidently made. It was complete BS! Basically they tired to say they were letting me go for the time card thing, when really it was because they weren't doing well as a company and couldn't afford me! It was wack and I was shocked and disturbed by it for a little while, but I got over it and it hasn't affected me since. Actually, I think the location went out of business cause they aren't listed anywhere in the phone book, etc any more.
But don't worry about it and don't let a bunch of a**holes who don't know sh** get you down. Just find yourself something else. It will be all good.
Thanks for sending those CDs out. I'll burn ya that Alchemist when I get it. Holla,

Kelson
 
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don't worry about it and don't let a bunch of a**holes who don't know sh** get you down. Just find yourself something else. It will be all good.
Those are Kelson's words.

If everyone could DO that, I am telling you, people, the vast majority of life's problems would vanish. Do what you CAN to make your life better, and ignore the crap that you cannot change but are tempted to harp on for decades.

Peace,
J
 
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don't worry about it and don't let a bunch of a**holes who don't know sh** get you down. Just find yourself something else. It will be all good.
Those are Kelson's words.

If everyone could DO that, I am telling you, people, the vast majority of life's problems would vanish. Do what you CAN to make your life better, and ignore the crap that you cannot change but are tempted to harp on for decades.

Peace,
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Thanks for the support on my advice Janine. You are certainly right. If everyone could learn how to just dismiss the BS and shi**y people in the world, then things would improve greatly. But as is the case with me and many others, it is easier said then done. Alot of the times I take things personally, analyze and ruminate over the situation, etc. But I think I am getting better at it! At least I am trying.
Take care.

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Thanks for the support on my advice Janine. You are certainly right. If everyone could learn how to just dismiss the BS and shi**y people in the world, then things would improve greatly. But as is the case with me and many others, it is easier said then done. Alot of the times I take things personally, analyze and ruminate over the situation, etc. But I think I am getting better at it! At least I am trying.
Take care.

Kelson
 
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