Me and my boyfriend have been together more than 3 years, today (valentines day) we agreed to go out to dinner when I got off work, I politely asked for only two things before I left for work: "dress fancy, and don't consume any alcohol". The reason I asked these two things I because he has a history of being stubborn and mean when he drinks. For example, when we had been dating a little more than a year, on new years night, he got super wasted and passed out, my tummy was hurting so I woke him up and asked him if he would lay with me. (here's where I went wrong) I was joking around and dragged him by his feet less than a foot across the floor, he stood up with his eyes still closed and shoved me, I was angry so I pushed him, he proceeded to grab me by my hair and slam me on the ground as hard as he could (he does not remember this night). Instances like this have occurred 3-4 times through our relationship, except one time a few months ago he was sober and we were fighting, I got mad and threw a shoe at him, it missed and hit his favorite guitar, I instantly felt bad, but before I could say anything he punched me in the jaw, it hurt really bad, but it didn't leave a bruise. Anyways, I told him not to drink tonight for valentines day so he wouldn't get aggressive, so I got off work and changed into a dress in the bathroom, I tried calling him several times, but his phone seemed to be dead. I ended up coming home to him drunk hanging out with our roommates. He didn't seem to have any remorse for the fact that he ditched me, he tried to talk to me a little but I was just too upset, so I pushed him away, he told me I was being mean and left "to buy more beer" I am so lost, this relationship on top of my dp, really makes my life super stressful, I wish I could break up with him, but we live together and I can't Break the lease, I wish he could see what he's doing to me and himself, it's horrible.