[Guest]

Coming from a full blooded American Woman who loves to shop, this is very upsetting. The sensations and perceptions I have while in any type of larger store absolutely suck. Things are too clustered and too bright. People look to far away. Everything seems so unfamiliar even though I have been there thousands of times before. What is this and why am I letting it consume me?

Kate :? :? :?

 

[delicateshadow]

I find it hard in shops too....but for me people are too close and crowding me and it feels like they hardly notice I am there, but its just they don't know how sensitive I am to proximity, and how much *space* I need...

((((((hugs))))))
can you take a friend with you shopping?

 

[orangeaid]

personally I find that when I go with my friends places I feel much more relaxed, it just makes sense. Sometimes I even forget about the problem I have. Friends and family make all the difference.

 

[derangedred]

i agree, especially places like wallmart or zellers, everything is so bright, and it boggles and confuses my mind

 

[delicateshadow]

well, its fine if you HAVE friends to go with, or a family that doesn't trigger dp.....

 

[Guest]

What do you mean by a family that doesn't trigger DP? I am curious because it seems that DP can be overwhelming when I am around love ones because I don't feel the connection that I once had with them if that makes any sense.
Kate

 

[delicateshadow]

yes, Kate, that makes sense, because I feel much like that with friends since I've been really depressed. And those times when I 'disappear' in the middle of a therapy session sometimes.

But, my family I've never felt close with, I am the only child of quite needy parents.

How they triggger my dp? Well, that's a long story..but it give the short version, when people don't really know and can't meet me and want me to be something that I am not, that they want me to be, then well, I totally 'zone out'.

When they don't understand and are frightened of my feelings, try to pretend nothing was ever wrong....
..when ....

is that understandable? I wish I could express it better...

Katie