i have that too. what i've realized is that i have to do it NOW because if i do it NOW it will go the way i planned it, it will be the BEST and it will absolutely blow people away. If i do it later, i won't have the right feeling and the storm of inspiration that will make the killer impression."
it's like you're subtly trying to control people through how they will react when you present your finished task PERFECTLY!. but even when you do finish it perfectly and as planned because you started right then, their reactions are unfulfilling because you planned it all along to be that way and expected them to like it.
but...if you sleep on it...you may have other factors creep in, you may not have the storm of inspiration but have to work anyway. then you risk people not liking the result as much. in the first option you were convinced that if you did it right then that's how you would magically win their approval.
but whether you wait or do it now, the results will be the same. the only thing changed is your confidence, which you feel will go down the drain if you hesitate even a minute. and then you do hesitate and DO give up, because you've had sufficient time to say "no, people won't like it."
part of neurosis is rejecting yourself before other people reject you.
get what i'm saying?
you need recognition, but you must do it all right now in a manic frenzy because if you stop to think you will have time to reject yourself. unfortunatley you don't learn from always doing it rihgt now. sometimes as i learned recently (and i had a bad minibreakdown over this myself), if you wait your product will actually be richer, deeper, better, more interesting to people because it won't be just a flamboyant display of your false perceived self. it will be something that everyone can appreciate. it will be the REAL you. doing it rihgt now, saves you from having to be the real you which you are afraid will be rejected. doing it later and slowly will mean that you will make mistakes that people may see you (a threat to your perfect godlike image, a humiliation) but grow more and your finished product will be better, and although the confidence may be lost and the road is scary, you will mostl likely be highly successful, more successful than in your manic frenzied attempt, and you will be so because you have put your true self into it instead of doing it solely for recognition.
Oh..and when people do applaud your slowly, carefully, lovingly finished project, the fulfillment will be overwhelming. unlike the frenzied projects. because THEY are approving you despite your flaws, they are approving of YOU, it is not a scenario where you manipulated them with doing something RIGHT NOW when you know they would like it. You are actually receptive to the reactions of REAL people rather than parts of yourself as in the first one.
it's like you're subtly trying to control people through how they will react when you present your finished task PERFECTLY!. but even when you do finish it perfectly and as planned because you started right then, their reactions are unfulfilling because you planned it all along to be that way and expected them to like it.
but...if you sleep on it...you may have other factors creep in, you may not have the storm of inspiration but have to work anyway. then you risk people not liking the result as much. in the first option you were convinced that if you did it right then that's how you would magically win their approval.
but whether you wait or do it now, the results will be the same. the only thing changed is your confidence, which you feel will go down the drain if you hesitate even a minute. and then you do hesitate and DO give up, because you've had sufficient time to say "no, people won't like it."
part of neurosis is rejecting yourself before other people reject you.
get what i'm saying?
you need recognition, but you must do it all right now in a manic frenzy because if you stop to think you will have time to reject yourself. unfortunatley you don't learn from always doing it rihgt now. sometimes as i learned recently (and i had a bad minibreakdown over this myself), if you wait your product will actually be richer, deeper, better, more interesting to people because it won't be just a flamboyant display of your false perceived self. it will be something that everyone can appreciate. it will be the REAL you. doing it rihgt now, saves you from having to be the real you which you are afraid will be rejected. doing it later and slowly will mean that you will make mistakes that people may see you (a threat to your perfect godlike image, a humiliation) but grow more and your finished product will be better, and although the confidence may be lost and the road is scary, you will mostl likely be highly successful, more successful than in your manic frenzied attempt, and you will be so because you have put your true self into it instead of doing it solely for recognition.
Oh..and when people do applaud your slowly, carefully, lovingly finished project, the fulfillment will be overwhelming. unlike the frenzied projects. because THEY are approving you despite your flaws, they are approving of YOU, it is not a scenario where you manipulated them with doing something RIGHT NOW when you know they would like it. You are actually receptive to the reactions of REAL people rather than parts of yourself as in the first one.
