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when you feel alright and you realise in what a strange world you have been living so far it is quite a shock.
how do you people have coped with this so far?
i was alright until shocked.
 

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Accept it. Just accept it. Consider yourself lucky and do not sabotage it by analyzing it.

In psychology there is a neurotic dynamic, I spose you could call it neurotic. But what it does is try to negate good feelings when one is used to feeling bad. Or it negates success when one's self esteem says you are not worthy. Same thing. It is okay to feel good. If "different" for you now is feeling "normal" then do not feel bad about feeling good. Embrace it, you lucky person. Do not return to the sick satisfaction of feeling sick. Your true self is the one before onset..
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I don't know, this is what I'm going through at the moment.
I can't work out whether I'm much worse or much better. I don't know if I feel relaxed or dp'ed as it's so long since I've felt normal.
 

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I read this last week and thought 'come on, YOU FEEL BETTER, enjoy it!!'

Then I had the same thing last night. For so long now I have been inside my own head and now I am gradually coming out of it. Last night, I was engaging in something that I can't say :oops: but let's just say that I was not at all in my own head for half an hour. The SHOCK afterwards and the disappointment of realising how sad my existence had become was unbearable. IT sent me back to DP. My boyfriend thought it was him....

Now Clare Weekes talks about this in one of her books. That some people get this and immediately go back to thinking about it again because of the shock to the system, like going into the cinema and getting engrossed in a film and then afterwards coming back into reality is horrible. It is JUST your mind adjusting, it's fine, whatever you do, regardless you must keep focusing outwards and not listen to what is going on inside your head. The fact we even noticed we felt better means we are still paying to much attention to our every thought. IT's agood sign, its progress that we can let go, but we have to carry ON letting go. The day you feel better, you won't realise it, because you won't be thinking about it!!!!
 

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hi, another person also commented, you are happy well enjoy it!
it's like saying to a depressed friend, to snap out of their depression.
it wasn't very encouraging.
anyway i just wanted to ask you how did you handle the situation after feeling alright?
 

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Hi Eclecticsheep,

Like you, I have never been able to understand how I can feel so hopeless at the beginning of a day, and then perhaps by the end of that same day be out eating with friends. I had a year of solid depression where I hardly got off the couch or left my house. There were no good days. I did say to myself if I ever got back up from that kind of depression, I would never sink that deep again. That time I did not have doctor's or medicine to help me. Not to get the natives restless, but it was a spiritual moment for me that I believe finally brought me back.

I then had a period without derealization and it was wonderful. But every now and then depression would come back around. Somehow I got thru those epsiodes without letting it take over my life. Now the DR has returned for around 15 years and with it comes the days of depression. I have days when I wonder how long I can go on. Can I survive this internal agony another minute? And like I said on another post, some days I talk myself in to getting up and fighting it and some days I stay in bed and let it consume me. They are the awful days.

I wanted to write this so you would not feel alone. I wanted to say that on the bad days, please try to think at least this one positive thought...This will pass. If you can always allow yourself that thought of knowledge, of hope, you can at least make it thru the day.

You say your doctor is far away and you only have family. I am hoping your family is supportive. Is there one family member who can be there for you when you are at your worst? Would you be willing to call them and ask for help to get you thru that day? If so, then tell them that some times you may need them to be with you so you do not feel so alone. Do they have a number where you live that you can call when you are feeling that low? People who will stay on the phone with you until you feel more yourself? That would also be something you can think to do when you are feeling so terrible.

When you write something as strong as you are thinking of ending life, it becomes very important that someone on this site ask you to seek immediate medical attention. This is not a medical site and people here cannot help someone that have reached such a very serious place in their minds. That is the position, I think, of the people who run this site.

I hope one thing of what I have written will be of some help while you work your way back up.

I really do wish you, and all of us that have to battle depression, strength and hope.

Most sincerely,
terri
 

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eclecticsheep said:
when you feel alright and you realise in what a strange world you have been living so far it is quite a shock.
how do you people have coped with this so far?
i was alright until shocked.
yeah im the same its like the first 6 months of this year i was a changed person didnt have dp/dr attacks the it was like bang outta the blue thoughts of what i use to go through etc etc now im back to square one the weird thing is i honestly thought i was over it but mother nature had other idears!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
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