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How to cure Depersonalization in three simple steps.​

Introduction:

Depersonalization is a state of mind where you feel unreal and emotionally numb. The environment around you seems unfamiliar, strange and almost fake as if it were made of plastic.

People then begin to feel changes in themselves, where they begin to question if anything is real or if anything exists. Eventually, they become so engrossed by these thoughts; they begin to believe them.

What causes these sensations?

A series of events may trigger this feeling of being 'unreal' that would varry from anxiety, panic attacks, mental trauma, etc. (e.g. a person may have witnessed a horrific incident that could cause him/her to feel this way, temporarily.)

How long does this last?

Not for very long. If you have previously experienced visual distortions, chances they have probably subsided by now. All that remains are worrying, intrusive thoughts that seem overwhelming and almost impossible to overcome.

If still experience visual distortions you are most likely still overwhelmed by these events and are overly anxious (constantly on edge). Regardless, both of these disturbances can be overcome very easily.

Why do people continue to feel this way?

Interestingly, this has much less to do with the root cause and more to do with the strange thoughts the person experiences on a frequent basis.

Here is the pattern:

1- Thought arises telling the person that nothing is real, nothing feels real.

2- The person then believes the thought and acknowledges it.

3- Then the person feels boggled and confused, questioning the validity of his thoughts.

The cycle repeats.​

What do thoughts have to do with feeling unreal?

When you touch something, feel something, or say something, you would experience thoughts in your mind telling you what you are touching does not feel or seem real. When you are talking, the same thought arises telling you that it is not you speaking, that the words coming out of your mouth are automated and you have no control over it.

Some people believe these thoughts, even though they know they are not true.

Only when a person believes these thoughts does he become an observer. Which is something that many people complain about.


How do we cure Depersonalization and reduce the intensity of these thoughts?

There are three simple steps that should be taken when facing these situations. With daily use and practice they will become second nature.

1- Realize that these thoughts are not yours. (Any deceitful thoughts that would cause you mental pain, wasting of time, etc.) e.g. Thoughts of feeling unreal fit in all these categories.​
(1- Deceitful = Not true 2- Mental Pain = Stress, Anxiety. 3- Wasteful = Analyzing and evaluating)

2- Don't believe the thoughts. (You might think theres something more, don't believe the thoughts, they are not true. They shouldn't be analyzed or evaluated, they will simply waste your time.)

3- Don't blame yourself for having these thoughts. (Self-blame will cause you to fall back into the viscous cycle, you will begin to feel depressed > worrying thoughts arise > anxiety.

How does this help?

By implementing these 3 simple steps into your daily routine, you will eliminate the feeling of Depersonalization as well as anxiety.

1- You will not be troubled by the thoughts, because they don't belong to you. (Reduces thinking about thoughts)

2- You will not believe deceitful thoughts that only aim to cause you mental pain. (Reduces anxiety)

3- You will not blame yourself for having these thoughts and will learn to deal with them more effectively in a healthy way. (Reduces the likelihood of falling into a depressed state)​

I hope this helps and benefits you all as much as it has helped me.
 

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pretty simple..so does that mean you rewire your brain not to think in such a way?

So the more you ignore the thoughts and practice being mindful might this help rewire you brain?
 

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pretty simple..so does that mean you rewire your brain not to think in such a way?

So the more you ignore the thoughts and practice being mindful might this help rewire you brain?
Yes, I guess you could put it that way. It's not just about ignoring the thoughts, it's about realizing that these thoughts are not true. Therefore you shouldn't believe them (you wont feel anxious), and you won't be thinking about them (since they are not true).

So, the less you think and worry about untrue, irrational thoughts, the less you feel anxious and eventually the feelings of Depersonalization go away naturally.

It rewires your brain in a sense that if you it regularly, it becomes habit and eventually second nature so you wouldn't have to think hard about how to deal with the situation.
 

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easier said than done when you feel really unreal, very hard to ignore it, especially when it is with you 24/7 like mine, just awful feeling a stranger to yourself.....
I disagree. I previously thought the same, until I took the first step, then it became so effortless that I glided through the whole thing. A perfect analogy would be similar to a child riding his bicycle for his first time without help of training wheels.

I think you see where I'm going with this...

My advice would be to just try this for one week at least, and I guarantee you if conducted properly, can rid you of these thoughts and feelings.
 

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This is wonderfully simple and effective for anxiety induced DP/DR. Thank you very much for sharing this. I think the problem is that a lot of people don't want to believe it's this simple because they think the way they feel is really complex. But I don't blame anyone. It sucks and I know how it feels.
 

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I agree with this solution. Anybody who disagrees is pretty much validating what you've said. By saying the experience is too difficult to deal with they are obviously siding with their thoughts. If you know that things feel unreal, you have to have sense of what feels real otherwise you wouldn't know the difference. Or it wouldn't be a 'problem'. The irony of dp or Dr is that you only realize how ridiculous it is once you're outside of it and everything has come back into balance. The best way to gain power over anxious thoughts is to let them be, and see them for what they are: thoughts. If you believe thoughts can hurt you than voilà, you're a great candidate for Dr or Dp. I can guarantee that neither has ever hurt you in any way. You have probably only ever experienced suffering. Suffering is in your mind. It's the attachment to these thoughts. Every moment you have the ability to focus on something other than dp or Dr. Don't feed the thoughts. Do nothing about the thoughts. Do something else instead. Also, relax and allow yourself to feel the way you do. No feeling is capable of lasting forever. If you think that you experience Dr or dp 24 hours. It's simply not true or possible. There are moments in your day when you are focused on something other than Dr or Dp, but since you're so used to looking for symptoms and not difference you will probably disagree with me. It's okay, you're just experiencing a pattern of chronicity. Follow the steps outlined above. They are golden. Your mind is tired. It wants to return to it's natural state, but it doesn't need your 'help'. It needs your attention to be spent somewhere useful instead. The person who is truly in control of their mind realizes that the best thing to do in order to deal with negative thoughts is to never entertain them and just observe what they do instead. Eventually you will get distracted by life and there will be a point where you forget to look more and more and then finally it's gone. You're an obsessive thinker if you have Dp or Dr. That's to your advantage though. Find something else to obsess over. Just not this. When it comes to dp and Dr do nothing. When it comes to your life, do something.
 

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Hi,

I really need to know something,

I have always had slight anxiety for certain things but no more than anyone else would ya know,

like starting a new school and stuff like that, but nothing major.

but last summer my mom, stepdad, siblings, and I went on vacation to visit my family like we do every summer and my mom and stepdad ended up getting into an arguement which led to their seperation and my mom and siblings and I stayed where we had come to just visit, and my stepdad went back to where we lived and I wasnt too happy about it being a sophomore in highschool and all, and unexpectedly moving 1200 miles away from my friends and home but i was still OK. Anyways, I started school and it wasnt bad but after a couple weeks i started getting a little depressed and missing my old school and friends and stuff and so i stopped going to school, i was sleeping all day, barely eating, crying alot, had thoughts of suicide, i just didnt feel like anything was ever going to get better, and then i moved in with my cousin and her girlfriend and i was feeling alot better, but still not going to school, which at my age was illegal and the courts started getting involved, so i tried to go back but then i just got such bad anxiety and i hid in the bathroom most of the day, and so i stopped going again and then i started going to court and then put a chins on me, threatened to put me into states custody, still didnt go to school, then they threatened to put me in juvi till i was 18 so i worked up the courage to just finish the 4 months of school that was left and i was doing ok, i was just keeping to my self and getting through the days, but like a month before school was over i was having trouble sleeping and my boyfriend offered to give me some trazodone to help me sleep and the first night i took it and i felt fine the next day, then i took it that night and the next day i felt very weird and dizzy and i thought i was just dehydrated, and so i took it again that night and the next day i woke up and felt VERY weird, and i didnt take again since, but the day after that i went to school and i just felt like i was in a dream, like nothing was real, i couldnt even recognize my own voice and i had the worst anxiety i almost passed out in my homeroom, i got dismissed before homeroom was even over, and for a while i felt that same feeling and it freaked me out and its been a few months since then and it hasnt gotten 100% better but its certainly not as bad, but i feel like i cant do anything anymore, i cant go to amusement parks cause i get so worked up, i cant go on rides cause i get too worked up, i cant even go to the mall cause i get too worked up, and ive looked up signs of depersonalization and they all explain what i feel. can anyone help me out? AT ALL? please. i dont think i can go another day living like this, i just want to feel like myself again :(

BTW, the trazodone were 100 mg and before that i was prescribed paxil but i never finished it, if that would help at all.

some one please help me out here.
 

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This is probably one of the most helpful post I've seen on here. I made an account instantly so I could reply. After I read this I basically snapped out of a cycle of anxious thoughts and started feeling better. My vision had been fixed for awhile but just a blurry dual. I realized this was a result of me constantly in a obbessive cycle of deep DP thinking just making me more anxious. I was basically zoned out and only thinking about what's wrong with me rather than living in the moment and noticing whats going on around me. Basically I was in a cycle of deep stressful and anxious thought 24/7 which was making me extremely fatigue. Another thing I did was equate every surreal moment to a result of my DP and that just made it more vicious, and had me thinking I was going crazy. I looked up programs and did tons of research and looked up cures. My problem was as soon as a cure didn't work it just made me more anxious and stressed out. Also I let the amount of time people had DP discourage me. I'd see like "10 years" and be like " Damn, I can't bear with this for 10 years." In my opinion I think people saying their amount of time with DP only discourages people a lot. If its a short period of time than a person may think " why is mine not gone yet?" If its a long period of time a person might think "I might have this shit for that long?" So I won't even announce how long I had mine for. I was afraid to awake and rather stay asleep because I was scared to face DP. My main mistake was over analyzing. I wake up over analyzing my room to see if everything is back to normal. I would analyze so hard then have a lying thought telling me something is not right. This then scared me into thinking the thought was true and made me even more anxious. I was bound to my bed and was confused that the feeling of boredom was the feeling of DP. This had me depressed. I started over analyzing my emotions, like why don't I feel a sense if accomplishment when it was just my anxiety in the way of my feelings. I could go on for so much more but I don't want to make this post too long. Anyways thank you, because lliterally after reading this post today I began to feel good like "damn it all makes sense now". I had thoughts of "when is this going to go away" rather then the thought of "what's the worst that can happen anyways honestly." It may feel like you can't or don't want to do things but honestly there's nothing holding you back but thoughts. This is when I just had the realization of "this is foolish how can I let thoughts hold me back from living life." Edit: The analogy I used is to someone who thinks they're allergic to something. For example if someone feels they ate something they believe they are allergic to they might start panicking and believe they are feeling the results of an allergic reaction. Like "oh my god my throat is closing up, what do I do?, when in reality it's just they're thoughts convincing them things are there that really aren't. Basically DP is a placebo within itself. The whole time I believed I was experiencing DP it was just depression, anxiety and boredom.
 

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Yea I feel you but being back to my normal self is good enough for me for now. Plus I felt a panic attack coming on last night while going to a party and that's when I told myself "your not going to have a panic attack, those are lying thoughts telling you that your going to have one", and i felt my anxiety instantly shrinking, which just gave me even more confidence.Every time a dumb ass thought comes around now I just dismiss it as false.
 

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I can honestly say I think I'm cured from my DP. I'll wait a couple days. But I got my vibes back plus my vision.
I wouldn't wait to see if it comes back again. That's not adhering to the steps outlined here. It also is a behavior that supports planning on to experience Dr again. If it arises, sometimes it leaves in waves, just continue this process. This process doesn't just apply to Dr, it applies to all of life and the tendency to attach to emotions, sensations, or perceived problems that wouldn't have a life span or any real reality without your conscious participation in the first place.
 

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I wouldn't wait to see if it comes back again. That's not adhering to the steps outlined here. It also is a behavior that supports planning on to experience Dr again. If it arises, sometimes it leaves in waves, just continue this process. This process doesn't just apply to Dr, it applies to all of life and the tendency to attach to emotions, sensations, or perceived problems that wouldn't have a life span or any real reality without your conscious participation in the first place.
You have a great point. I just always here about people relapsing, which is why I said that. Are you still in DP though? Just wondering.
 

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Confusing boredom with the feeling of DP... that makes so much sense. I never knew how to put that into the right words.
 

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Depersonalization disorder is a real disorder that does not involve only thoughts which are more ocd related. Depersonalization also involves feelings and sensations that are not necessarily connected to thoughts. I've read quite a few books about the subject because i've had it for 20 years non stop and nothing has made it better. For many people with dpd there is no simple cure or effective treatment. It has to do with organic brain structure and how it operates in a defective way. Maybe there is more than one type of depersonalization disorder. this disorder has liturally ruined my life. hope your treatment works well for you.
 
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