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I've experienced depersonalization episodes before for hours or a day at a time only occasionally but I never thought anything of it until this past week where it's been extremely intense and stressful. I know that DP can stem from anxiety which is what I'm assuming has happened. Normally I just push all of my anxiety and stress to the back of my mind and let it appear as if it is not there. I think that it's unhealthy for me to do that rather than just dealing with it and I think this week I've let it all come back at once on top of the anxiety I've already been experiencing lately. I know I've been thinking a lot about college and my future which is probably the most stressful thing to me. It scares me tremendously for some reason. I've started to miss some school because of the way I'm feeling. It gets so much worse when I increase my surroundings or what I'm doing and that's such a stressful thought. I don't know what to tell people when I miss school. I want to tell them what's going on with me so they're aware but I don't want them to look at me like I'm insane although that's definitely how I feel. I want to know when I'll be able to feel normal again. I'm so so so afraid of what's going to happen in the future. I'm afraid this is going to affect my performance in school, music, life in general. Every time I shower i can feel the temperature change from hot to cold but it's like my body has no response to it, it's like I'm not becoming hot or cold with the water. Anytime I eat I can hardly taste anything other than if something is sweet or savory. When I drive I feel as if I'm in some desolate world and everyone passing me doesn't actually exist. It looks quiet. When I talk to people I don't feel in control. I look at someone and I talk but I can't feel myself processing any of the words I'm saying. I don't feel like I'm processing anything around me but I'm still somehow functioning and reacting and interacting but I'm not thinking about doing any of those things so it really confuses me. It's like someone else is talking for me. It doesn't feel like me at all. I look at my hands and I know they're mine but they don't feel like mine. Its like they almost have a mind of their own. I am endlessly questioning what I'm doing because I know my brain isn't working properly. I question if I'm at school at the right time and right day. Did I show up accidentally on a Saturday? I'll obsessively check the time and date on my phone. Im having trouble deciphering if things have happened in a dream or not. I feel like my depth and time perception is off. I look at a clock and know what 5 minutes is supposed to feel like but it doesn't feel the same anymore. I feel like things are happening so fast and I'm just going through the motions in everything I do. After driving I often forget the entire ride and it confuses me as to how I got from one place to another with no memory of what happened in between. I feel depressed sitting in my room as everyone else is out in the world living when that's all I want to do but everything that's happening feels so empty. I feel like I'm not getting anything out of life. I'm constantly stressed thinking about it and how it's affecting me and it's only been a little over a week. How much longer is this going to last?
 

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The first and most important thing I think you should work on is not asking yourself "How long is this going to last" and start asking yourself how you can control and relieve the anxiety and stress. If I'm being 100% absolutely frank with you, no one is going to be able to tell you the answer you're looking for; my spouse got stuck on that in their battle with DPDR, there is NO ANSWER that will appease your brain in that regards. When your brain tells you that it is imperative that you know when, you have to take control again, because you are the one in control, and remind yourself that you don't need to know when, you just need to remind yourself that it doesn't matter when just that you are going to recover, because you absolutely will.

Who do you have in your life that you can talk to about what's stressing you out and what's causing you anxiety? If you don't have someone, do you need someone? Though it's much harder through text as I can employ any emotion in my words through text, I got pretty decent at it while helping my spouse :)

I haven't had DPDR (my spouse did, as I alluded) but I have had many of the symptoms you described myself, and am someone who has an anxiety problem. The key is talking about it, having someone who is outside of your own brain who you trust that can talk to you and let you know that you aren't being rational about your thoughts. You can also start incorporating a few techniques to help drive away the anxiety and the obsessive focus on the symptoms, and instead focus on the underlying condition (stress and anxiety) - tools that I use to drive my anxiety down include talking to someone about it, for me is my spouse, for you it could be a parent, a friend you are sure that you can confide in, or a significant other if you have one; thought stopping is a fantastic skill that is great at helping with anxiety, acknowledging the thoughts as just thoughts, then redirecting yourself back to the task at hand; and square breathing is another one that is incredibly helpful when your heart is racing or panic mode is trying to set in, breath in 2 seconds, hold 2 seconds, breath out 2 seconds, hold 2 seconds, and then repeat.

When my stress and anxiety gets up to a high point, I often find myself experiencing those symptoms: losing track of time, forgetting the drive, words just coming out like I'm on autopilot, feeling like you're in a desolate world is a big one that I have frequently. I stop myself, breath, acknowledge that I am pushing myself too hard and I'm letting my anxiety and stress creep up, acknowledge that everyone else is real, or that I am actually talking and no one else is controlling me, and then redirect myself back to the task at hand. If I was driving and lost the last mile or 2 or more, I acknowledge that I am certain I was there and did so, otherwise I wouldn't be where I currently am, and then I immediately redirect myself back to driving again, or redirect back to walking in the store and pushing my brain to remember what I have on my list at the store, etc. It's not easy, because your brain is going to want to go back to the fact that it's somehow "weird" or "not right" that you don't remember the drive (or whatever else), you just have to continue to redirect yourself back to the task at hand, pull yourself back into reality through whichever means you can. Sometimes it's beyond hard or even feels impossible, but know that it isn't and you absolutely can pull yourself back.
 
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