[Guest]

i dont want this post to sound like im whining or complaining because im not going to do that anymore. ive had severe dp/dr now for four years and over the past few months ive had a great change in disposition. im now ready to begin recovering and healing from all this crap. but my question is, how does one move on? how can we ever see things normally again after all of the crazy and unreal things we have experienced? i cant just forget about the past four years of my life, as much as i want to. i know how all of you feel and i know how completely insane and horrifying this experience is. how do we begin to recover after all of the self-induced trauma we've experienced? how can we ever forgive ourselves? i know that most of my dp was brought on by my own doing (drugs, etc.). how can one return to reality after seeing the horrible pits of unreality? again im not trying to be negative at all, i believe recovery is entirely possible, i just need some guidance. please if you have any ideas or comments feel free to post them.

 

[MrMortgage]

I was saying this in another post! "Wasn't it worth going through all of this to see how great feeling normal is?" Is someone were to ask me that I would have to hold myself back from saying something mean.

After someone experiences something like this, you really find out that life isn't really that great, even when it's good. Life sucks more then it's fun...

Don't mean to sound negative but it's the truth. You suffer for about 70 to 80% of youre life, the rest is fun... That fun better be amazing for 80% of suffering...but it never is.

I'll tell you what helps me survive man... Jesus. Seriously, I would have killed myself by now...I know this life is only temporary, and I will go through a lifetime of suffering to recieve an eternity of paradise beyone human comprehension...Yes, that's worth it, but nothing on this earth is worth the type of suffering we go through on this earth.

So you cant think of youre reward for going through hell is gonna be found on this earth...it's not the reward is waiting for you with God... Just my comment to the post.

This works for me, it might not work for others...Maybe it'll work for you. God Bless!

 

[Phill]

Well that kind of faith and attitude is working well for me.
I just wish others on this forum would believe it.

 

[Sojourner]

Unfortunately, most of 'em think we are crazy. But I think everyone really feels the reality of God and thinks it's just their own wishful thinking.

What's especially tough for me is when I have my own doubts about what I believe. If someone put a gun to my head, I'd have to say yes, I do believe, but frankly, my evidence involves so much that I can never adequately explain it to anyone or give myself a timely pep talk. That's why I read C. S. Lewis whenever I can. He's one of the best for reminding me of what and why I do believe -- and why there's so much logical evidence for that belief.

I think people avoid the personal encounter with Christ just as avidly as they say that they are open to proof. Even I do that, sometimes.

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Lest Adam think we are avoiding his question, however, we should offer some other suggestions.

Adam, in the end, everybody crafts their own method of getting out and staying out, but there are ideas about how to do it that you can learn if you seek professional help. I would encourage you to see about getting a companion, a therapist, to help you craft your own personal method.

 

[boohoo]

Adam, I know what you mean because I also feel like I will never be able to relax again and live normally after this. I know someone who had severe dp for a year, which started when he was on a come-down, and he's been fine since. But like you, I've had this for a long time - 5 years now, on and off. I feel like even if I do get better I'll never be able to book a holiday incase it starts again, or have children etc.
Sorry, this isn't helping, is it?
Maybe we'll surprise ourselves at how well we bounce back.

 

[bat]

you've done the worst bit and in my experience you won't forget it. just do your best not to dwell. live life, take risks, love. try to make things good for people you care about, concentrate on that because, in my experience, it's more worthwhile, and helpful, than dwelling on the horror of self destruction.