Hi, I'm Ghost, for as long as I could remember nothing seemed real. Like the face in the mirror wasn't mine, everything seems flat, like I'm inside a photo that I look at, I always expect for stuff to pass through me, cause I'm not real, my thoughts are foggy, I have emotion, but it seems distant, I always feel like I'm just watching. But am I really? Because I don't have a sense of self. I just hope I can have some support and a place to talk to people like me.
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Hi Ghost,
Do you spend a lot of time in your head? The best thing you can do for yourself is to get out of it and stay actively engaged with the world.
When I had social anxiety, I isolated myself and hid my true self, and this created an inner-darkness. My sense of self weakened and faded. I think that made me vulnerable to dissociation and depersonalization. Spend more time with family, friends, and people with similar interests. They're a good mirror to recognize yourself in. Coming here and seeking people who are or have suffered from DP was a good step.
You need to regain your sense of control: that you are in the driver's seat and not just a passive observer of your life. You can't really control your emotions, perceptions, self-perception, and thoughts directly. You should focus on what is under your control: what you can actually physically do. You should also trust that what is not under you control.
Gradually, you will feel more identified with yourself and your life: centered inside it, not outside.
I have a strong sense of self now. However, I am able to shift my perspective and make my sense of self disappear for a moment. I don't get stuck in that dissociated state though because there is no anxiety and obsessiveness.
You will find a lot of good advice in the Recovery Stories forum. [EDIT: Also Most Liked Content] I strongly recommend that you don't spend much time reading about others' problems. Focus on what has worked for others who have recovered and try it out in your life.
Do you spend a lot of time in your head? The best thing you can do for yourself is to get out of it and stay actively engaged with the world.
When I had social anxiety, I isolated myself and hid my true self, and this created an inner-darkness. My sense of self weakened and faded. I think that made me vulnerable to dissociation and depersonalization. Spend more time with family, friends, and people with similar interests. They're a good mirror to recognize yourself in. Coming here and seeking people who are or have suffered from DP was a good step.
You need to regain your sense of control: that you are in the driver's seat and not just a passive observer of your life. You can't really control your emotions, perceptions, self-perception, and thoughts directly. You should focus on what is under your control: what you can actually physically do. You should also trust that what is not under you control.
Gradually, you will feel more identified with yourself and your life: centered inside it, not outside.
I have a strong sense of self now. However, I am able to shift my perspective and make my sense of self disappear for a moment. I don't get stuck in that dissociated state though because there is no anxiety and obsessiveness.
You will find a lot of good advice in the Recovery Stories forum. [EDIT: Also Most Liked Content] I strongly recommend that you don't spend much time reading about others' problems. Focus on what has worked for others who have recovered and try it out in your life.
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