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Anybody else despise this term? I think it comes from hearing it alot when I was younger and it just sounds so scary. It's not used much anymore in the psych community.(no offense Janine i know it's part of the title to one of your books.) I just hate it. It makes me feel like I have to break apart b-4 I get better again and I don't want to do that. What would it look like? It would be close to how I'm already feeling only I'd finally surrender to the enemy within and run down the streets screaming or hurting myself or somebody else, having to be put in restraints, put in a mental ward. I don't know if I just wish I WOULD go off the deep end or over the edge to get it over with anymore or not. Its like the evil feelings want me to collapse and give in to this madness but I won't//can't stop running. Not really makin it......
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I think it's the layman's understanding of the term that is skewed and that causes people to dislike it.

There's this image of breaking down, but it's not that the person collapses in a heap on the floor, but that his nerves cannot cope with life's ups and downs. That's all it means, and it's not a technical term, anyway.
 

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LOSTONE. It's both. I hate the term and I am more than a little worried.
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Sojourner, color me a layman then cause I hate the whole image it conjures. Even though there is probably a wish like I said that --somehow I would "go nuts" b/cuz at least I'd finally ARRIVE someplace instead of the endless ride on the crazy train. And if I arrived then I could leave too..just semantics I guess I dunno. In psychic pain and sick to death of this sh*t. Thank you both for speaking to me I really needed just somebody to talk back to me.
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There are a lot of realy bad terms out there Jake. I personaly don't like the term retard myself. I think Sojo is afraid of fools, and we all hate morons.
I think that these stupid terms will never change and therefore the only thing we can hope for is change within ourselves. If you don't like the idea of haveing a nervious breakdown than the best thing to do in order to avoid haveing one is to stop thinking about haveing one.
Put more of your thoughts on terms like SERENITY, PEACE, AWESOMENESS, RADICAL AND PLACATION.
When you think of a nervious breakdown next, try to think in terms of your doc trying to figure out your illness and than think of him haveing a breakdown in the process. This might put some light on the term.

In reality a nervious breakdown is usually a pleasurable experience, compared to dp/dr anyway.
 

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I have always hated the term. Reason being is that although maybe technically correct, it has always had bad connotations in my part of the world anyway. How many times did I hear the hushed voices say about victims "did you hear she had a nervous breakdown" as if these people had jsut committed a heinious crime. After hearing this I would look at these people (when I was a kid) and be scared of them. The term instilled fear in me, gossip in others, condemnation for some. I do not ever remember the term being useful to me, a commoner. When I started to have anxiety problems and headed toward this "nervous breakdown" I was so very fearful because of the term. I would now become a subject for hushed voices.

Of course my subjective perception of the term was not clinically correct, but I would venture that many shared my experience. I have found it much easier to grasp the term "anxiety disorder" and even dp/dr than nervous breakdown.
Everybody has anxiety. All can relate.

The new and progressive attitudes toward "mental illness" have helped dispel the fears of terms. I feel "nervous breakdown" needs to go down the road as obsolete and along with it the historic connotations that a few generations had toward it. Come up with a new term that does not have the baggage. An equally descriptive term, but without the baggage. There are many terms in all avenues of life in the last thirty years that have been replaced due to awareness of these sensitivities. (e.g. crippled, retard, lunatic, epileptic, foreigner, housewife etc.) When these were replaced with more PC terms, the definitions may have been similiar but the historic connotations and stigma left. I feel the same about "nervous breakdown".

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The reason I used the dreaded term "nervous breakdown" in my book title was mostly because I was trying to capture the experience of mental anguish and anxiety states as LOOSELY as I could, without designating any specific "disorder" or "condition."

Also, remember, I am old - lol - so I have actual life experience before all these "disorders' came into existence. And I humbly disagree with you guys about something. I believe the OVERuse of the word "disorder" has caused many more problems than most people realize.

It FEELS better to think you have a "disorder" than to think you just couldn't cope with your own mental experience - it's not "your fault" and it's not even up to you to FIX it. It's up to some healthcare worker to prescribe, diagnose and/or treat "it" as an entity apart from YOU. Sadly, it's very often not true at all.

Way too many people today are searching for and lamenting the lack of "Proper Treatment" for their "CONDITIONS" - as if the Self is just the port that this horrible "illness" has pulled into. It creates a split between the Self and the MIND - as if the mind can get have something wrong with it that is not INTRINSIC to itself....and as if the Self is pure Ego/intact cognitive personality and processing and the symptoms are "other" as some alien invader like a germ.

IF that little fairy tale was only INCORRECT, then so what. But it also has on its coat tails a very unfortunate tag-along. People are not encouraged to find their way out of their symptoms - not encouraged to disentangle the LARGE ball of knots and threads that created the symptom states and not encouraged to RESIST the tempting lures (obsessions, etc.) that the mind sets up as bait to keep the mind stuck there. We believe instead, it's not me....this is only "the disorder" - and we step comfortably aside from the helm. Feels good. But then so does obsessing. And so does washing your hands 320 times for someone with OCD. What FEELS good may not BE good when we're suffering from these mental and emotional states.

We need to spend our energies really noticing what does work, forcing ourselves to DO that, and fighting tooth and nail against giving into the things that FEEL good but that keep us stuck. And we need to look at who are are, how we got here and what might need to change if we want to be constructed a bit sturdier for the next half of life.

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Good advice Jannie.

It FEELS better to think you have a "disorder" than to think you just couldn't cope with your own mental experience - it's not "your fault" and it's not even up to you to FIX it. It's up to some healthcare worker to prescribe, diagnose and/or treat "it" as an entity apart from YOU. Sadly, it's very often not true at all.
Right on!
This is why I don't like going to the head docs or takeing meds.

Jannie I am wondering what is the name of your book and when will it be released? I seem to have missed some info someplace.

NEVER MIND. I just found your WWW.
 
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