[jake]

Ok I'll say something about Janine's post. Somebody said you can't reply to it in ususal way. ...uh..Paging Doctor Freud, please report to the dpself- help forum!
Ok as one of the many disturbed but loveable siblings/parents/cousins/on here I will say I understand how this happens in groups. I didn't know there were squabbles, enemies or arguments ongoing here, but I am too interested in myself to catch on I guess. But I have experienced in just 21 days here my own stuff: reactions, happiness/relief, confusion, judgemental-ness? compassion, paranoia, fear, connectedness, laughter, probably more. Groups are a goldmine for me in more than just what purpose they serve on the surface. I can learn LOTS about how I am, think I am, wish I was, because as Maude said to Harold in that great movie "People! They're my species!"..
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As much as a loner as I am, I love people and need them; and learn what I cannot on my own. It's one reason I went out on a limb and asked how I come across recently, when I realized I was feeling guilty and responsible. Of course I wanted to hear good things too. And I felt like a kid doing that. But it was cool. I guess we are all adults like it or not, and will probably...until someboady says "hey you are dead wrong!"..will see the world as we are not as it is, including other people. At least to a certain extent. If projection and transference weren't happening here I would think THAT was weird! I find the whole thing vaguely comforting.

 

[LOSTONE]

As much as a loner as I am, I love people and need them

Thats me. The more society drives me away, the more I want to connect with society, and the lonelier I feel.

I don't understand whats with the fighting. I wish someone would explane.

Can't we all just get along .

I have been in group therapy before and I don't remember any bickering.
Why is there so much bickering here?

SERENITY NOW !

 

[Monkeydust]

Of course I wanted to hear good things too. And I felt like a kid doing that.

Not really related, but I've always thought that most of the adults I know - admittedly they're not "old" adults, being early 20s - are often only superficially mature, and childlike in a great many ways.

I can see this in myself, too. We often put on a "front" of maturity when we feel like it and when it suits the occasion, but underneath can still find ourself acting in very childlike ways - playfights, winding-up people, practical jokes, you name it.

I suppose part of that comes through with people here when they pick arguments, annoy people and act as if the atmosphere were one of a "family".