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why oh why !
im in charge/in control when im in company, but why do i go to pieces when im left alone....
this is madness ive drunk a bottle of barcadi.....a bottle of vodka,and tons of beer just to keep panic at bay....yes ! im a twat but its the only thing that works
 

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JC,

Whoa soldier...don't hurt yourself! That's alot of alcohol.

Can I ask this...What is it that bothers you so much about being alone?
Have you ever thought about that or discussed that? What bothers you about it? After you answer that, you can then try to figure out if you are panicking for nothing and if you can confront your reseasoning. That is my advice. Why are you so scared alone??

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Hi Jc,no doubt by now you have a mighty big headache.
At least this should help you feel your head huh?

What is it about being alone that worries you so much?
A long time ago I had a friend who was agoraphobic,well actually she sort of had it in reverse.
She could not stay at home alone,she was terrified beyond belief.
It was very sad because she would go out each day after her children had left for school and simply wander about.
She had just moved to a new city so I guess she got to know it pretty well in a short time.

Finally she took herself to see a psychiatrist.With his help as well as medication she slowly recovered.

Your problem might be very possible to get a handle on.

Wishing you all the best.
Cheers Shelly
 

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jc.....

i cant stand been left on my own.....i feel as if that is when something will happen to me .........the thoughts get worse i panic like hell and get really disorientated....... i have never since been young liked been on my own but coped with it until dp........i rely on my partner too much because of this...i know i am stoping him from having the life he should be having....and maybe its right that we should face the fears and find out why.....why the hell are we more scared on our own....i mean things can happen with company just as bad as been alone[ i think my fear is i will collapse or scare myself to death been on my own but with my partner about i am dped but a bit more relaxed and able to do things....left on my own i wallow in a corner :( ]
 

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i think im just a nutter...if i owned a mansion and had stacks of money people would just say '''''oh hes just eccentric''''''
i dont find it funny though....im not eccentric i really am a bampot(scottish term for nutcase)
 
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Well, nice to see you post again jc, been awhile. Wish it was under more cheerful circumstances....
You and me seem to have the opposite problem. I actually do better when alone. Unfortunately that almost never happens......
But when it does, for some reason I find it easier to distract myself, from myself. I guess maybe because I have more control over the situation, and no need to pretend I'm not feeling like a bampot (congratulations on your proper use of the word - it's a small world and you might be surprised where my family is originally from).
Sounds like some good advice has already been given by other members, which is a good thing, because I doubt I have much to add. Just wanted to say hi, and hope you can get a handle on the being alone thing. Maybe just try to look at it as a time when you are in complete control of your destiny. You can do whatever you want to do, without having to bother with others. If you simply can't stand being alone, then get out of the house. Go for walks, get some Christmas shopping done, go over to a mates. Just, get out there in real life. Sounds as if you maybe should slow down the alcohol intake, but you won't get any preaching about it from me. Just, be smart, be safe, and get out and about.
And jc - there is a little boy inside every man. Nothing wrong with that.
 

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hey jc, I know how you feel, it's a kind of co-dependency thing... it sounds really obvious but do you get the feeling that if you hadn't thought of it, you wouldn't be feeling that way-like it's habit or something?
 

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I can't stand to be alone, but then again when I'm around people I want to be left alone. How weird is that? When ever you feel alone, talk to us. We are always here for you. For the ones of us who can't sleep, we are on here at night too. :wink: Just don't hurt yourself drinking so much.
 

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Hey there JC,

First, I can't stay in a house by myself at night. Big phob.

Second, didn't you do pretty well the last time they went out of town?

Third, didn't you just do a kick ass post about how good things were going with group?

Okay, I'm calling it. You had a bad day. Now back to the good stuff my man!

I do so hope you are getting a better handle on it today.

Thinking of you,
terri (thanks for the new word, to me, of bampot. i am a bampot.)
 
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Jc I don't think you're a nut case.
It seems like you are not alone with this being alone problem.

I'm not very brave of a night either,Terri.Keep more than a few lights on in the house.
At the same time I don't really want people around me much of the time either.I feel too weird and would rather feel free to be weird.I hate having to pretend.

Maybe you are afraid of having panic attacks Jc............"do ya think"I here you saying.

It sounds like something that you could get some help for.I hope you find an answer soon.

Cheers Shelly
 
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jc said:
why oh why !
im in charge/in control when im in company, but why do i go to pieces when im left alone....
this is madness ive drunk a bottle of barcadi.....a bottle of vodka,and tons of beer just to keep panic at bay....yes ! im a twat but its the only thing that works
Why is Paul Weller in your avatar?

Alcohol is a natural pain killer.. it drowns out your mind and emotions..

I think your Parents smothered you. Do you feel "exposed" when alone?
Er... I feel exposed when around PEOPLE.

I think that's kind of funny. Drinking like that when feeling "isolation anxiety".. That's pretty funny.

About the mansion.. Yes. If we were all Phd Professors, with a huge house.. We could be very creepy.
:cry:

Oh Lord it's so SAD.
 

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Ghost, at first I found your posts difficult to understand but I've just realised that basically you say exactly what you're thinking, as you think it, and it's brilliant! I love it. The reason its hard to read at first is because it doesn't have all that extra crap that most people (myself included) put in to make it 'nice and right' and good english etc. Maybe we should all have a go at writing like that, I imagine it would be really therapeutic. Say it like it is...
 
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Ghost, at first I found your posts difficult to understand but I've just realised that basically you say exactly what you're thinking, as you think it, and it's brilliant! I love it. The reason its hard to read at first is because it doesn't have all that extra crap that most people (myself included) put in to make it 'nice and right' and good english etc. Maybe we should all have a go at writing like that, I imagine it would be really therapeutic. Say it like it is...
Are you sure? What, you're a FAN of "ruining your reputation"?

I got told by my medical doctor, today, that my symptoms since I was 5 represent de-tachment from the frontal lobes.. Explains all. Loss of analytical dialogue (Internal dialogue), and blank head. It's found in dementia patients. Which is why L-Glutamate is helping me (They lower Glutamate for Dementia/Alzhiemers patients).

My Dad was exposed to ALOT of agent orange in Vietnam. It'd be good if He'd agree to get the "Dioxin" blood test done for me (Agent Orange has a "half life"), but my Dad disowned me years ago.

"Mentally incompetent" He said :(

I write without proper judgement. I over-react to stress, I guess in the same way dementia patients do. I think my neurology was maybe why I reacted so badly to the Psych drugs. I was born sick. I think I'm "naturally" anti-social (break social norms), but I'm social as well (conscientious) which makes me suspect Autism.. I dont get "drawn" to socialise (Never did), I loathe it. I'm not "magnetised" towards people.

Call me "Miss Dioxin" :(
 

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ohhh perleazze

'WHY IS PAUL WELLER IN MY AVATAR'

maybe im a fan :roll:

but seriously in answer to why do i drink when alone

'i feel lonley'
'i feel insecure'

and the biggest daftest reason is because i think im going to panic,but i do now tell myself 'whats the worst that can happen'
i can pass out,but it still doesnt help to be constantly aware of your own emotions and breathing.....thats why i get so mad with this stupid illness
 
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Hey jc the jam :) good band!!!!

it still doesnt help to be constantly aware of your own emotions and breathing.....thats why i get so mad with this stupid illness
I get so hacked off with this it sux!!! I get well paranoid when im alone sometimes...either that or more lost inside myself.... I just try n think of stuff to keep me busy etc....

I used to drink to kinda 'ease it' but then it's bk to square 1 *grrrrrrr dam dp/dr whatever*

I just play my music as loud as i can when im home alone or distract myself....
 

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its hard to understand for all the couples out there.....but living with this crap and spending even one hour alone is a nightmare......i used to LOVE IT ! when my folks went away....now im a neurotic mess
 
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