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yesterday i was driving with my son and we were looking at all the old houses i used to live in, then all of a sudden i forgot where i live and what my house looked like...it just happened for a split second, maby 2, but for the life of my i couldnt remember....then it came back to me......it scared me alot and i keep feeling like i have to repeat in my head where i live etc afraid that it will happen again. Does this mean i am going to forget everthing? Or was it becaue i was reminicing on old times that i momentarily forgot where i was
 

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yesterday i was driving with my son and we were looking at all the old houses i used to live in, then all of a sudden i forgot where i live and what my house looked like...it just happened for a split second, maby 2, but for the life of my i couldnt remember....then it came back to me......it scared me alot and i keep feeling like i have to repeat in my head where i live etc afraid that it will happen again. Does this mean i am going to forget everthing? Or was it becaue i was reminicing on old times that i momentarily forgot where i was
 
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I dont think you will forget everything...this has happeend to me a few times and I think trying to remember and forcing oyur mind to remember makes you forget even more. know what I mean? Maybe someone else can explain it better but you wont forget everything..just dont dwell on it because i think its probably happened to several people here.
 
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I dont think you will forget everything...this has happeend to me a few times and I think trying to remember and forcing oyur mind to remember makes you forget even more. know what I mean? Maybe someone else can explain it better but you wont forget everything..just dont dwell on it because i think its probably happened to several people here.
 

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I have totally had this! Its so weird! I get it when I'm remembering something that happened at one of my old houses and then can't picture the house I live in now! Ive had it a few times. I wonder if it is due to dp related stuff. Although, like Lauren says, when you try to remember something you can't. For instance, someone asked me the other day who played Clarice Starling in Silence of the Lambs. Couldnt rememmber for the life of me Jodie Foster's name. Its funny cos if you ask the people with you, they immediately forget too and everyone sits there going 'damn it. its on the tip of my tongue'. I've been walking down stairs and suddenly sort of misjudged the next step like my brain 'forgot' how to tackle steps...and that's only after 1 bottle of whisky....kidding
 

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I have totally had this! Its so weird! I get it when I'm remembering something that happened at one of my old houses and then can't picture the house I live in now! Ive had it a few times. I wonder if it is due to dp related stuff. Although, like Lauren says, when you try to remember something you can't. For instance, someone asked me the other day who played Clarice Starling in Silence of the Lambs. Couldnt rememmber for the life of me Jodie Foster's name. Its funny cos if you ask the people with you, they immediately forget too and everyone sits there going 'damn it. its on the tip of my tongue'. I've been walking down stairs and suddenly sort of misjudged the next step like my brain 'forgot' how to tackle steps...and that's only after 1 bottle of whisky....kidding
 

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yea, it was just so scary...now i cant get it out of my stupid ugly fucked up head that im going to forget who i am , where i live , who my family is etc... my head just keeps playing it over and over again trying to think why it happened...... sometimes id just like to pack it all in and blow my fucking brains out.
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yea, it was just so scary...now i cant get it out of my stupid ugly fucked up head that im going to forget who i am , where i live , who my family is etc... my head just keeps playing it over and over again trying to think why it happened...... sometimes id just like to pack it all in and blow my fucking brains out.
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Okay, now cheerful one. Listen up: there are two distinct types of memory. One is pure "recall" and that is the type of memory you use when you're a contestant on Jeopardy. You use that kind of memory when someone says "what's the answer to this?" and you use the prefrontal cortex portion of the brain to summon up at will whatever necessary facts/details, etc. on demand. And the prefrontal cortex "shuts down" under extreme conditions.

That is the type of memory that freezes under stress. That is the kind of memory that no matter how much you studied the night before might just FREEZE solid when the teacher calls on you. That type is victimized by anxiety. That is the type you were using when you tried to force yourself to recall the exact location of your whereabouts when you felt like you were losing all memory.

The second type is called "implicit memory" - that is the type you use to remember how to ride a bike. That is the type you use when you're busy driving, talking to someone, or worrying about going insane, that is the type that "knows' the way home. That is the type you have NO control over whatsoever. That is the type that will never fail you.

If you torment yourself by trying to call up facts/details under massive anxiety and then freak out when you're on a three second delay, you will scare yourself more each minute. And while you're freaking out, the other type of memory will be just fine and will be leading you home (even if you cannot recall your address)

Anxiety, my friend. Too much watching of self. Too much fear of utterly unfounded imaginary ideas.

No one "forgets" things because of dp, dr, anxiety or obsessions. We temporarily lose the ability to have fast recall (the same way a normal person might freeze up if someone put a gun to his head and said "tell me the names of all your children." he might literally not be able to recall.)

Remove the gun.
No amount of "practice" will reassure you and you will only keep upsetting yourself.

Peace,
Janine
 
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Okay, now cheerful one. Listen up: there are two distinct types of memory. One is pure "recall" and that is the type of memory you use when you're a contestant on Jeopardy. You use that kind of memory when someone says "what's the answer to this?" and you use the prefrontal cortex portion of the brain to summon up at will whatever necessary facts/details, etc. on demand. And the prefrontal cortex "shuts down" under extreme conditions.

That is the type of memory that freezes under stress. That is the kind of memory that no matter how much you studied the night before might just FREEZE solid when the teacher calls on you. That type is victimized by anxiety. That is the type you were using when you tried to force yourself to recall the exact location of your whereabouts when you felt like you were losing all memory.

The second type is called "implicit memory" - that is the type you use to remember how to ride a bike. That is the type you use when you're busy driving, talking to someone, or worrying about going insane, that is the type that "knows' the way home. That is the type you have NO control over whatsoever. That is the type that will never fail you.

If you torment yourself by trying to call up facts/details under massive anxiety and then freak out when you're on a three second delay, you will scare yourself more each minute. And while you're freaking out, the other type of memory will be just fine and will be leading you home (even if you cannot recall your address)

Anxiety, my friend. Too much watching of self. Too much fear of utterly unfounded imaginary ideas.

No one "forgets" things because of dp, dr, anxiety or obsessions. We temporarily lose the ability to have fast recall (the same way a normal person might freeze up if someone put a gun to his head and said "tell me the names of all your children." he might literally not be able to recall.)

Remove the gun.
No amount of "practice" will reassure you and you will only keep upsetting yourself.

Peace,
Janine
 

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thanks Janine..i know i sound like a maniac, it just freaked me out...well not me, my mind, and then my mind wouldnt shut up, no matter what i was saying to it, it wouldnt stop tormenting me.....but your explanation has helped me to understand that i won't all of a sudden forget how to get home and what my name is etc..... that sounds insane just reading that again......you words were really helpful and so was your book. Last night i was frantically flipping through it, trying to keep myself sane...not that i was going insane anyway, it just felt like that.....
anyway,, i absoloutly recommend your book to EVERYONE going through this....Everyone....
Snowy
 

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thanks Janine..i know i sound like a maniac, it just freaked me out...well not me, my mind, and then my mind wouldnt shut up, no matter what i was saying to it, it wouldnt stop tormenting me.....but your explanation has helped me to understand that i won't all of a sudden forget how to get home and what my name is etc..... that sounds insane just reading that again......you words were really helpful and so was your book. Last night i was frantically flipping through it, trying to keep myself sane...not that i was going insane anyway, it just felt like that.....
anyway,, i absoloutly recommend your book to EVERYONE going through this....Everyone....
Snowy
 
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