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For Janine- about the aftermath .

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Hey Janine. I know you get several topic starters that asks for you. I will keep it short. I dont know if you remember me but i am the one that had dp/dr from weed almost 3 years ago. I had it for 3months, very very extreme and then it went away. However i was still left with a little disconnected numb feeling. Not to the point of DP or DR but i just cant describe it and sometimes i cant relate to anyone on this board.

- Its been getting worse these past 2 weeks, i guess b/c of stress with my girlfriend and college. I missed out on alot of time from nyu and i should have been graduated last yr. I however have a semester remaining. Oh forgot "keeping this topic short" =)

Anyways i been feeling a little bit more disconnected lately and on the edge, but it doesnt manifest itself to dp or dr. Its just a feeling i live with everyday. Do u have any idea what it is?? Could it be that i still have dp/dr? i doubt it but what is this numb feeling ?

you also reccommended Welbutrin, im thinking of getting on it.
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Ok I don't mean to be playing Janine here, but this is kind of bugging me.


she just gave you the answer in the post.

It doesn't matter if you had 2 months or 4 months of DP and a slight wave of bad feeling or maybe the anxiety first and hten the full blown DP or DP+ depression for the whole time, a quick recovery and bounceback or latent anxiety for a year or WHATEVER.


The issue is something that happened before the first dp. What happened before the first dp is you had:
a set way of what you thought the world to be
certain fears and insecurities
certain misconceptions about the world
certain things about yourself you couldn't face or accept
certain things about reality you couldn't face or accept.

THOSE are the things that need to be looked at. NOT how you're feeling right now.

So go to a psychologist and talk to them about your life. oh yeah that tricky little thing called life. that you're running away from.

for example:

everything started feeling worse recently when i started dating somebody. I could have just marked it off as "stress of a new guy" or "oh my dp/dr/anxiety is getting worse" or whatever, but it was really a surfacing of latent problems I had WAY before the DP such as:

1) irrational fear of rejection
2) bending over backwards just to please somebody, not voicing my wants/needs/anger
3) not facing that sometimes, someone isn't mature enough for me to date or that they just don't like me (which, in this case, was probably both and more the latter than the former)
4) I haven't spent enough time alone with my feelings, i use boyfriends as distractions
5) i date people so that way i don't have to do other things like attend to family and friends and such, gives me an excuse to go out and party


so maybe you might want to look at WHY you're dating this person or WHY you're in the other situations that stress you out, there could be some immediate clues there...and then still work on the deeper stuff.
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maria, maybe you have "accepted" it in the sense that "oh, well i'm not going to be those things, no use in trying"

are you really starting to build piece by piece the career you want, etc?

I don't know

but i think it's a huge part of this disorder

i've still got problems myself

BTW Janine they've discovered several hundred years ago that alchemy was crap...well i guess you could turn other things into gold but it would be radio active. Besides, who wants to be a physicist anyway? Physics bores me...i just take classes like that occasionally to try to impress people.
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