Ok I don't mean to be playing Janine here, but this is kind of bugging me.
LOOK
she just gave you the answer in the post.
It doesn't matter if you had 2 months or 4 months of DP and a slight wave of bad feeling or maybe the anxiety first and hten the full blown DP or DP+ depression for the whole time, a quick recovery and bounceback or latent anxiety for a year or WHATEVER.
IT DOES NOT MATTER THE TIME AND THE TYPE OF DP/DR/ANXIETY YOU HAD. IT IS NOT THE ISSUE.
The issue is something that happened before the first dp. What happened before the first dp is you had:
a set way of what you thought the world to be
certain fears and insecurities
certain misconceptions about the world
certain things about yourself you couldn't face or accept
certain things about reality you couldn't face or accept.
THOSE are the things that need to be looked at. NOT how you're feeling right now.
So go to a psychologist and talk to them about your life. oh yeah that tricky little thing called life. that you're running away from.
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for example:
everything started feeling worse recently when i started dating somebody. I could have just marked it off as "stress of a new guy" or "oh my dp/dr/anxiety is getting worse" or whatever, but it was really a surfacing of latent problems I had WAY before the DP such as:
1) irrational fear of rejection
2) bending over backwards just to please somebody, not voicing my wants/needs/anger
3) not facing that sometimes, someone isn't mature enough for me to date or that they just don't like me (which, in this case, was probably both and more the latter than the former)
4) I haven't spent enough time alone with my feelings, i use boyfriends as distractions
5) i date people so that way i don't have to do other things like attend to family and friends and such, gives me an excuse to go out and party
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so maybe you might want to look at WHY you're dating this person or WHY you're in the other situations that stress you out, there could be some immediate clues there...and then still work on the deeper stuff.
LOOK
she just gave you the answer in the post.
It doesn't matter if you had 2 months or 4 months of DP and a slight wave of bad feeling or maybe the anxiety first and hten the full blown DP or DP+ depression for the whole time, a quick recovery and bounceback or latent anxiety for a year or WHATEVER.
IT DOES NOT MATTER THE TIME AND THE TYPE OF DP/DR/ANXIETY YOU HAD. IT IS NOT THE ISSUE.
The issue is something that happened before the first dp. What happened before the first dp is you had:
a set way of what you thought the world to be
certain fears and insecurities
certain misconceptions about the world
certain things about yourself you couldn't face or accept
certain things about reality you couldn't face or accept.
THOSE are the things that need to be looked at. NOT how you're feeling right now.
So go to a psychologist and talk to them about your life. oh yeah that tricky little thing called life. that you're running away from.
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for example:
everything started feeling worse recently when i started dating somebody. I could have just marked it off as "stress of a new guy" or "oh my dp/dr/anxiety is getting worse" or whatever, but it was really a surfacing of latent problems I had WAY before the DP such as:
1) irrational fear of rejection
2) bending over backwards just to please somebody, not voicing my wants/needs/anger
3) not facing that sometimes, someone isn't mature enough for me to date or that they just don't like me (which, in this case, was probably both and more the latter than the former)
4) I haven't spent enough time alone with my feelings, i use boyfriends as distractions
5) i date people so that way i don't have to do other things like attend to family and friends and such, gives me an excuse to go out and party
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so maybe you might want to look at WHY you're dating this person or WHY you're in the other situations that stress you out, there could be some immediate clues there...and then still work on the deeper stuff.
