[Eurythmic]

recently i have this terrible fear of my loved ones dying, especially my younger sister, mostly i fear the young dying, i know if anything did happen to one of my loved ones who are young, i dont think i'd be able to cope, i just want to rid myself of this fear, so i can live again. I was wondering if any of you guys out there shared this fear, or if anyones manage to ease this fear and carry on living.
thanks alot
El
xxx

 

[terri*]

Hi El,

I very much have this fear. My parents and friends, well hell, even myself, are all reaching ages where this becomes a natural occurance. I have a hard time not thinking of it because I have such a fear of loss. I'm thinking you are probably much younger and wonder why you think about your sister especially. Was or is there anything that happened to give you your initial thought on this and now it has become an obsession?

 

[Scattered]

I have this fear alot. I think I feel so insecure that I fear the death of my family members. They are my only source of connection, understanding, and help in times of trouble. I've also been focusing on the fact that I'm probably not as safe as I believe I am. I sort of had that same conception of invincibility that people often have. Bad things happen, but not to me or anyone I know. I realize that this isn't true at all. Its just an idea that helps a person get through the day without worrying to much about the future. I'm sure this isn't helping, but I'm sure any fear you have is greatly exaggerated.

 

[cesart]

i have this too..ive had it since i was 9 and its pure hell. i think they call it existential angst? it went away when i was 14-ish and came back in force last year after having lost my nan. i just cant understand how one minute someone can be here, alive and breathing, and the next they're gone and will never come back. this thought frightens the life out of me. sorry to be a bit morbid as well, but i also have terrifying thoughts and/or nightmares about my brain still being concious when im dead and being buried/cremated, or how my body will look in a coffin. i used to think i was just weird. but having spoken to my pyschologist he assures me that this is all part of mental disorders (well some of them, particularly dp). does anyone else get these morbid visions? cx

 

[fingertingle]

Yeah. I've been terrified of my parents dying ever since my mom had cancer. I don't really think it's dp related, but it's definitely something I deal with daily. Now I'm scared of my sister and friends dying too. And my pets! I've just become an anxious person overall.

 

[Guest]

Hola,
I lost many loved ones before I was 25, all my Grandparents (on both sides) and BOTH my parents, and on and on. We can't stop bad things from happening, BUT we can love them as best as we can everyday while they're around. Take it from someone who has been there. Tell them you love them.

I wish you peace,

Tony

 

[Milan]

Tony that's so sad. Must have been a very difficult time.

Yes, we must express our feelings to each other more often. We get complacent and that is a bad thing.

 

[Guest]

i also have terrifying thoughts and/or nightmares about my brain still being concious when im dead and being buried/cremated, or how my body will look in a coffin.

does anyone else get these morbid visions? cx

Yes, and they are horrible. I got them worse when I was younger though.

 

[brett88]

I have a big fear of something bad happening to my family members. I dont really have a fear of dying for me though, in a way it seems like a way out. Pathetic i know but true sometimes... I would never commit suicide though, i was raised a christian so i believe thats horrible and id never even attempt it, Im to afraid of the consequences.