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my mum experienced dp/dr about 30 years ago.... shes tried to help me but she says shes built a wall in her mind and doesnt want to knock it down.

She helped me alot when i first got the symptoms but then it got too close to home so i feel like shes avoiding me now :(
 
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Interesting,only one other person here with a blood relative having dp.
Thanks dreamcatcher,sorry to hear your Mum is avoiding you.
It can be difficult to talk about dp symptoms once you've had it.The memories are not pretty.
Although after 30 yrs I would have thought they might have faded.

Did your Mum mention if she knew what triggered her dp at the time and how she got rid of it?

Cheers Shelly
 

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my mums was caused by stress......she cured it by making life changing desicions......unfortanutley i dont think i have any desicions to make...

she took no meds and was ill for around 1 year....

she was a great help to me at the start but i dont think any amouny of time takes away the fear of it happening again even though she is extremely happy now...

i do believe it can be partially genetic as my grandad had it too, unfortunately he got really confused and accidentally took an overdose and didnt live to tell his tale :( :(
 

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i dunno about dp.. but i know there are lots of mental sh1t on both sides of my family. my dads side is mostly ADD and depression. and my moms side is obsessive compulsive.
 
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I know this isn't a family member, but one of my best friends has 24/7 DP and DR, but she doesn't mind having it. She actually likes it. I have no idea how, but she does. She has 2 jobs, a boyfriend, an active social life, she smokes, drinks, gets high, etc. etc. It's mind boggling I tell ya. She described me how she felt once and she for sure has DP and DR. Her exact words, "It made my life feel more interesting and mysterious"

*shivers*

I can't even imagine liking DR and DP.
 
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my mom has anxiety and depression and she told me recently that she has experienced dp/dr. She doesn't experience it 24/7 like I've been, but she's had episodes of it briefly.

my dad is obsessive and tempermental.

that about did it for my brain chemistry i suppose.
 

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kari,
thats how my dp experience is. its more pleasurable than horrible. its the way i tune out of reality cause reality is the painful part. but the tuning out just makes life totally worse and unbarable because after so long of avoiding my life i feel like life has passed me by. :cry:
 
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My sister, who is a year younger used to get bouts of dr/dp when we were growing up in highschool. I remember her getting very very upset when they happened. For her though, they were transient experiences, lasting a few minutes, although I could tell they were horror for her. She always told me that as long as she tries not to think about it, it would go away, so she hated it when I started talking about it, because sometimes, for her it would trigger it.
 

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Only recently I found out that my younger sister experiences dp/dr every once in a while. It doesn't take long, a half hour at most. It doesn't scar her cause she knows that it will disappear.
 

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A lot of my friends have experienced it briefly or have recurrent transient dp feelings.
As for my family, my Dad's side has a history of depression and anxiety, and his brother describes his panic attacks as if really he has dp. I would love to chat to him and help him, because I am sure he has no idea what it is or has any support. The only problem is, none of my family know about my dp, let alone that I have panic attacks or anxiety. It would shock them and I don't want to them to worry. Though sometimes I do wish I could talk to them, mainly ask them questions about what their versions of certain events are, like my first panic attack. My, Dad depsite the family genetics, is free from anything like this, except he had ocd briefly when he was very young. My Mum is a bit of a nervous person too, but nothing like dp. But then I don't know - she may, I'd love to ask but I don't know where to start? She would worry about me or blame herself and I don't want her too. It's not that I'm not close to my parents, but I do have trouble telling them if I feel sad or any negative feelings, and I have always joked about stuff like that. I am honest with them and wear my heart on my sleeve, though only in a positive format. I am also known as the family hypochondriac and play up to it, spouting the latest information on illnesses and declaring I have it! It's a bit of a joke, that I guess I'm hiding behind. How did you all tell your family? Is it worth telling them? What are the benefits? Sorry if this is off topic.
 
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Even though few of us have a close family member with dp,it appears many have family with anxiety states and or depression.
I wonder if people see this as environemental or genetic?Naturally it can be both but I tend to think there is a predispostion in the first place.
In my situation there is no doubt that my daughter has developed dp/dr due to her genetic predispostion.
As a parent this does not make me happy.I do feel responsible although I realise that I had no way of knowing that this was going to happen.
When I was younger my dp was very mild in comparison and I really thought it was just some wierd thing that I experienced.
One of my sisters had it for a year or so when she had severe post natal depression.

Funk it's never easy to talk about dp with people who don't understand it and as we have just discussed it's even difficult when a person has it.
I've found it frightening at times to talk with my daughter,just the mere mention of the symptoms can make me feel very anxious.I know she feels the same.
We have been able to have a few good laughs about it because we feel sometimes like we are tripping and realise we say and do odd things.

Some of my family know I have it.I simply had to try and explain why I felt so dreadful at times.Luckily for me everybody has had their share of weirdness so even though they might not completely grasp it,they have some idea that it's not a walk in the park (not for me anyway).

I suppose it's an individual choice whether to share our dp with others or not.It probably will only be beneficial if the other person has our best interest at heart and is a caring type.
As for being a hypochondriac.I'd say I'm considered to be the family member most likely.
Funny thing is whenever anyone has a pain or an ailment they like tell me LOL.honestly sometimes I think they think I'm a doctor.Even my sister who is a nurse calls me to discuss her health probs.
I'm always more rational when giving advice for others,I keep the drama for myself.
Like the other week when my legs were painful after a short flight.I took an asprin and hit the bed with my legs well ellivated because I decided it was most likely DVT.

Cheers Shelly
 
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