I was about to drift off to sleep when this hit me, and I thought I would share it. I would like everyone, if they are so inclined, to try this next time they're deep in dispair. One of the problems we seem to have is no lifeline - that is, nothing to hold onto when we're feeling in the DP - and so we simply sit at the bottom of our well until "something" pulls us out of it. This can't be very good on our feelings of hope surrounding this thing, so, if you can - can you try this for me and let me know how it works?
Do these things (and do them for a good couple hours, even repeating and trying different variations):
Feel. Pinch yourself, or run your hands across the top of your desk to feel the physical world. Walk outside if its windy and focus on the wind on you, or step outside in the heat and focus on the heat. Snuggle in your bed and focus on the comfort of the blankets. Or (emotionally) watch a movie that makes you cry or laugh. Smell a flower, listen to the rain, do something that is feeling - or using your senses.
Engage. Engage in something real and physical such as doing the laundry, or cleaning the house - typically something personal such that you're exerting yourself, but also not in your head (like daydreaming). If you're a programmer, program something, if you're a musician, play your music, but do something real - even if it's only to go mow the lawn.
Associate. Talk to someone (someone real and in front of you), engage in a conversation with someone arround you and actually ASSOCIATE - that is, listen, and communicate and understand their point of view. Associate with someone.
React. Put yourself into a situation where the world isn't a one-way thing where you're simply observing - that is, put yourself into a situation where you have to react. Debate, play a sport (a real sport), turn on the news and form an opinion on something - the point is to react to your environment.
This just kind of came to me in a flash, so it could be stupid. But I just tried it and it - well, worked. I'm fully here at the moment. Try it and then, please, get back with me so I can revise it if necessary - I really want to come up with something for everyone to DO when they're in the depths of this thing that is simple, easy to remember, and actualizing. These words Feel, Engage, Associate, and React will mean the same to us, but people will have to do different things to actually have them happen (if you're not married, you can't associate with your spouse, that is), etc. However, think about what these words mean and what you can do and do this consistently - whenever you feel the badness hit.
If you feel even the slightest bit better, it's very likely that, after a few months of doing this consitently, you may get out of it, or at least feel a damn site better.
Thoughts? Extensions? It's a matter of keeping it sweet, simple, and effective....notice the magic in these steps is that they're the opposite of DEpersonalize and DISassociate.
Do these things (and do them for a good couple hours, even repeating and trying different variations):
Feel. Pinch yourself, or run your hands across the top of your desk to feel the physical world. Walk outside if its windy and focus on the wind on you, or step outside in the heat and focus on the heat. Snuggle in your bed and focus on the comfort of the blankets. Or (emotionally) watch a movie that makes you cry or laugh. Smell a flower, listen to the rain, do something that is feeling - or using your senses.
Engage. Engage in something real and physical such as doing the laundry, or cleaning the house - typically something personal such that you're exerting yourself, but also not in your head (like daydreaming). If you're a programmer, program something, if you're a musician, play your music, but do something real - even if it's only to go mow the lawn.
Associate. Talk to someone (someone real and in front of you), engage in a conversation with someone arround you and actually ASSOCIATE - that is, listen, and communicate and understand their point of view. Associate with someone.
React. Put yourself into a situation where the world isn't a one-way thing where you're simply observing - that is, put yourself into a situation where you have to react. Debate, play a sport (a real sport), turn on the news and form an opinion on something - the point is to react to your environment.
This just kind of came to me in a flash, so it could be stupid. But I just tried it and it - well, worked. I'm fully here at the moment. Try it and then, please, get back with me so I can revise it if necessary - I really want to come up with something for everyone to DO when they're in the depths of this thing that is simple, easy to remember, and actualizing. These words Feel, Engage, Associate, and React will mean the same to us, but people will have to do different things to actually have them happen (if you're not married, you can't associate with your spouse, that is), etc. However, think about what these words mean and what you can do and do this consistently - whenever you feel the badness hit.
If you feel even the slightest bit better, it's very likely that, after a few months of doing this consitently, you may get out of it, or at least feel a damn site better.
Thoughts? Extensions? It's a matter of keeping it sweet, simple, and effective....notice the magic in these steps is that they're the opposite of DEpersonalize and DISassociate.
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