Yeah that's true. In my case, going back to the memory and picturing myself doing something empowering like standing up for myself was what helped me feel better. Just going over and over the trauma without actually re-framing it or picturing a better outcome wouldn't have done anything for me.I learned all about it and did all the processing part - had all the manuals - but my ingrained negativity at the time cancelled it out. The last part, the part I thought most unimportant, is the most important, the re-framing, changing how you feel about things, is essential.
You can go over and relive trauma a million times, but if you don't change how you feel about it - and you can do that deliberately - then you wont move forward.