Not a fan of medication but will use a Benzo... interesting. You only have this stance because you never found a medication you liked/worked I am guessing. If you were anti medication you would not be pro Xanax, considering for one it's highly addictive. Not saying this to I dunno argue for the use of a better term, It's like saying... I am anti drink, but when i do drink, i drink moonshine.
As to your question, i think you kinda know the deal, you are anxious with this other person in the car or the situation, more anxiety brings back the DP/DR you mention, you either have to find a way to cope/lower the anxiety/reduce your anxiety in general or medication, there really isn't much else to it.
You can do more dissociated than you think, I know that to be true, taking instructions though can be difficult so I get your worry.
Also if you haven't found a doctor that understood what you had, then you may as well count that as 0 doctors seen. My advice is get treated for anxiety and depression separately, one for each, see how you stand, or just anxiety if you don't have depression
As to your question, i think you kinda know the deal, you are anxious with this other person in the car or the situation, more anxiety brings back the DP/DR you mention, you either have to find a way to cope/lower the anxiety/reduce your anxiety in general or medication, there really isn't much else to it.
You can do more dissociated than you think, I know that to be true, taking instructions though can be difficult so I get your worry.
Also if you haven't found a doctor that understood what you had, then you may as well count that as 0 doctors seen. My advice is get treated for anxiety and depression separately, one for each, see how you stand, or just anxiety if you don't have depression