[maria]

I know many of us can't feel anything (duh), but I also don't 'care' about anything. I haven't studied for a year and it doesn't bother me at all, however the worst thing is that I don't seem to care about people that I used to care about, and I don't know if this is just because I can't feel, I'd think there's a difference. I don't hate them or anything, it just feels that if everyone I know would suddenly die I wouldn't even raise an eyebrow. I'm just a salt statue. Can anyone relate?

 

[shadowness]

i can definately relate...

i feel like nothing really matters and that i do not care about what i do or care as much about other people like i used to...

which i really hate feeling as i want to care...

which means that i care about caring...

but even then i think to myself why do i care?

if that makes sense...

not a nice feeling...

 

[Guest]

thats part of being depressed. Lack of motivation, not caring about anything, dont care about ur life. nothing to look forward too, eat healthy and take st. johns wort and youll be back to normal and get good sleep if you wake up in the morning feeling grumpy and angry means ur not getting good sleep.

 

[dreamcatcher]

maria.....i have felt like that for as long as i have had dp.....i really truley want to care, but the feelings are not there......i know that i must care about my kids but my emotions are that blunted that it all feels like an act.......I HATE IT......that is one thing i do know

 

[sebastian]

thats part of being depressed. Lack of motivation, not caring about anything, dont care about ur life. nothing to look forward too, eat healthy and take st. johns wort and youll be back to normal and get good sleep if you wake up in the morning feeling grumpy and angry means ur not getting good sleep.

This may help a very very little bit, but it is nowhere near being the answer. I sleep well and i'm healthy as a horse and yet, the indifference remains.

Maria,

I definitely relate also. I think this has to do with our thoughts being preoccupied with worrying about ourselves and we simply have no directive energy toward anyone else. This worries me too, as i really do WANT to care, and yet i'm struck with indifference constantly. I think the key might be to force ourselves to care, even going through the motions, and eventually our emotions will filter back.

s.

 

[Guest]

thats part of being depressed. Lack of motivation, not caring about anything, dont care about ur life. nothing to look forward too, eat healthy and take st. johns wort and youll be back to normal and get good sleep if you wake up in the morning feeling grumpy and angry means ur not getting good sleep.

This may help a very very little bit, but it is nowhere near being the answer. I sleep well and i'm healthy as a horse and yet, the indifference remains.

Maria,

I definitely relate also. I think this has to do with our thoughts being preoccupied with worrying about ourselves and we simply have no directive energy toward anyone else. This worries me too, as i really do WANT to care, and yet i'm struck with indifference constantly. I think the key might be to force ourselves to care, even going through the motions, and eventually our emotions will filter back.

s.

well thats depression because your depressed about how you have this disorder and its all you think about all the time... you mind cant be focused in 2 places at the same time. You expect to feel emotions for others when your so caught up in your own misery and grief... My explanation was a way to make her feel more healthy, which will cause her to feel better about the disorder, which will then cause her to feel better about life. Its all a theory, you dont have the crudentials to tell her that my advice is not going to help. I dont think you are a psychiatrist :wink:

 

[sleepingbeauty]

i have that same feeling. i dont think its depression based though. i do have depression but i dont think it has anything to do with that. i first started "not caring" when i started taking effexor a year ago. i took it for anxiety and panic disorder, because thats what i was diagnosed with at the time. while on the effexor i had a complete lack of emotion. i didnt care about anything or anyone. all the people that i worried and cared so much about, i just didnt feel anything for them. my senses we also numbed to the point where i just wanted to light myself on fire so that i could start 'feeling' again. every doctor i told about this says it was mania that i was feeling, because it got to the point where i didnt care what i did, cause it wouldnt matter. i could do whatever i wanted because there were no consequences to my actions... and if there were.. i wouldnt give 2 sh!ts about it anyways. after i got off it i went through a massive depression, but the not caring still remained. it just carried over.

right now im on meds for ADD and depression, but im still struggling with this problem of not caring. its very hard for me to show the people i love my emotions, cause they really arent there. im always questioning if i really love them... and sometimes i think to myself... well i dont love them. even though i know i do. its just so confusing when you cant feel anything.

 

[sebastian]

thats part of being depressed. Lack of motivation, not caring about anything, dont care about ur life. nothing to look forward too, eat healthy and take st. johns wort and youll be back to normal and get good sleep if you wake up in the morning feeling grumpy and angry means ur not getting good sleep.

This may help a very very little bit, but it is nowhere near being the answer. I sleep well and i'm healthy as a horse and yet, the indifference remains.

s.

well thats depression because your depressed about how you have this disorder and its all you think about all the time... you mind cant be focused in 2 places at the same time. You expect to feel emotions for others when your so caught up in your own misery and grief... My explanation was a way to make her feel more healthy, which will cause her to feel better about the disorder, which will then cause her to feel better about life. Its all a theory, you dont have the crudentials to tell her that my advice is not going to help. I dont think you are a psychiatrist :wink:

Well, i don't want to get off topic here, but that isn't what you were saying. "Take St. John's Wort, get some sleep, eat healthy...you'll be fine."

I don't need to be a psychiatrist to know this isn't a solution. Like i said, it may contribute in a very small way to feeling a little more psychologically peppy, but that's about the extent of it. I mean, i'd recommend that for anyone (except the St. John's wort) just to feel a little better, but i just don't think it begins to address the problems of dp/anxiety.

s.

 

[Guest]

I cannot relate, but what maria says sounds really cool.
I guess she has found heaven on earth, dude!

 

[unidlehands]

but im still struggling with this problem of not caring. its very hard for me to show the people i love my emotions, cause they really arent there. im always questioning if i really love them... and sometimes i think to myself... well i dont love them. even though i know i do. its just so confusing when you cant feel anything.

That statement in itself is a bit contradictory, it clearly shows you do have emotions because if you didn't you really wouldnt care that you feel that you no longer care about or love people the way you did.

You can feel things, it's just that your brain in the depressed/anxious state is so pre-occupied with the current condition that everything else just gets pushed to the side.

That's my two pence worth anyway, and I do have similar feelings but it's just a matter of realising why you are feeling this way and try not to worry too much about it, it will come back with time.