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I feel that most of my dp/dr problems are caused by my social anxiety problems. I get so anxious in certain public situations I think it causes the derealization feelings. I never feel dr/dp when I'm alone or calm with friends or anything.

Anyone else here suffer from social anxiety as well?
 

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yea. but mostly anxiety about people i know not people i dont. i enjoy crowds that i dont know anyone in neutral places like malls and such. i dont answer the telephone or read the mail. im even anxious about answering my messages. i haaaaaate talking on the phone. for me its like impending doom. its so stupid i wish it would just go away.
 
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I hate talking on the phone, too. But I think I'm getting over my social anxiety some. I have even managed to ask a couple different girls out over the last couple weeks. They did not recoil in disgust and horror (much), so I feel better about myself.
 

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Yeh I have social anxiety, mostly around people I don?t know well or when in large groups. If I?m with people I know I?m generally alright though.

And this is a little off topic but how did you get the image in your signature? Did you type in <img srs = " " > cos I assumed you couldn?t have image sigs on this website for some reason, probably cos no one till now has had one.
 

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Its hard to tell if I have social anxiety. I have such a built in desire to isolate myself that I rarely get into anxious social situations. I suppose that its an avoidance behavior common to SAD though.
 

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I'm only really comfortable when I'm by myself. When in the presence of others, it always requires a strenuous effort on my part to try to appear fairly normal (it's not my imagination. If I don't make this special effort, I do get stared at funny).

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yeah I can relate. Although we all need some social interaction at times it can be too emotionally taxing to put on a front and pretend to be normal. It also seems as if you were just to relax and be yourself then you would immediately get rejected. Most people arent very forgiving when it comes to eccentricites outside of their perception of whats considered acceptable behavior.
 
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Yes, I know what you're talking about. First, there are many people I don't feel like getting acquainted with at work and even looking them in the eyes and saying hello when we pass at the coffee machine or in the lift is difficult (I'm talking about people from the department that I don't work with but see almost every day).

Then, there is always this fear of looking bizarre, like they're going to see my DP. The most horrible part is when I have a conversation in "automatic pilot", I emerge and realise what's going on. Usually, the other party hasn't noticed anything but it makes me very uncomfortable.

Also, it takes me a long long time before I feel comfortable with new acquaintances usually. I don't make friends easily.

What is your experience of social anxiety, mate?
 

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Yeh I have social anxiety, mostly around people I don?t know well or when in large groups. If I?m with people I know I?m generally alright though.

And this is a little off topic but how did you get the image in your signature? Did you type in <img srs = " " > cos I assumed you couldn?t have image sigs on this website for some reason, probably cos no one till now has had one.
Just type in
and put it in your sig!
 

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Yes, I think I definitely do. I don't really see it as an issue of causation or anything - as social anxiety leading to DP - I just think they're all symptoms of a messed up mind like mine.

I absolutely hate talking in front of massive groups; just that feeling that what I say might not make sense or sound right. I'm always "on guard" of what I say, thinking I might make some ridiculous comment or "let loose" a lot of the obsessive thoughts I have.

I also agree with this:

The most horrible part is when I have a conversation in "automatic pilot", I emerge and realise what's going on. Usually, the other party hasn't noticed anything but it makes me very uncomfortable.
A couple of times since I've had this I've been able to confidently and fluently talk in front of a crowd and have them interested and laughing. Everytime that happens I immediately afterwords realize that I just did it on "auto-pilot", like it wasn't the "real me" talking there. That's always very disconcerting.
 
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