[Guest]

I admit to having a checkered past of meds, shrinks, loony bins, eratic behavior, near breakdown, real breakdowns; that I have DP/DR 24/7, but... I am still a cognizant, and to a surprising degree, rational human being, who has a clear awareness of her emotional world and psyche. Particularly so, I would say, in the last 10 years or so.

So why is it that the people in my life whom I'm close to feel free to withdraw from up their sleeve the all-purpose "you're crazy" dagger whenever it suits them? That they accuse me of not knowing what I'm talking about, being delusional, needing a lobotomy or something? Yes, I'm out of touch with reality, but not in that way.

If I have a disagreement with someone close to me, it really, really hurts me when, as a last resort, they accuse me either of not knowing what my feelings really are, or of being irrational/ unstable in general, and just like that I'm dismissed. This seems consummately unfair, particularly in cases where it was my overall eccentricity that they claimed to like about me in the first place.

I would never write someone off as a nutcase even if I knew for a fact that they WERE a nutcase. It's important to give people the benefit of the doubt, you know?

 

[fingertingle]

That must be really annoying for you, as you see yourself as a logical, clear-thinking individual. I, on the other hand, do not see myself as such and would love the relief of that excuse... lol... Maybe I SHOULD tell them.

Kidding.

Yup, that sounds annoying, try to provide as lengthy explanation for all your decisions as you can so that they can see your thought process and stop doing this!!

 

[Guest]

It bothers me that there is this stigma attached to me, that you would think people close to you would be understanding about, that gives them a carte blanche to dismiss my thoughts and feelings as loony.

Not that it happens much, but when it does, it's maddening (bad choice of words :roll: ).

I *was* a very confused person for the first 10 years of the DP; after that point I figured out ways to walk around it both emotionally and cognitively, to surprising success. If I weren't confident in my ability to empathize and love, for instance, I would never have had children. But I got to the point where I had that confidence completely.

Thanks fingertingle, your words mean a lot to me.

 

[terri*]

LC,

I also hate when people I love and care about, ie. husband, use the "crazy" wild card at their pleasure. It's like I wish I had never spilled my guts and said how "wierd" the world looks. It just gives them ammo when they need some...which I find is usually when they are wrong about something and need a quick answer to holler back to you. :evil:

There! That's what I think about the ignorant people that "use" the information they know about us against us.

Solidarity!!
terri

 

[livinginhell333]

yea i get this as well. mostly friends, my brother doesn't want nothing to do with it. he says there's nothing wrong with you and kinda withdraws from the whole thing. sometimes my friend will call me a nut or whatever but he kids a lot. i know he doesn't mean it, but it can still bother me. i would like to see them try feeling the way i feel just for a little bit.

 

[Guest]

LC,

I also hate when people I love and care about, ie. husband,

Haha terri*, could I possibly have been referring to the man in my life? :roll:

It's not just him, but my extended family also.

livinginhell, sorry you get it too

 

[Guest]

Hola gang,
Sheesh, my relatives thought I was a little "left of center" to begin with, so I don't figure most dont need to know my "issues" with DP, therefore most don't know. Why add fuel to the fire?

Tony