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Why is it that people who are compassionate suffer the most...
Whenever i meet a good person I will find that this person is battling problems inflicted by others.
Do people see nice people as prey so they can feel powerful ?

To me societies all work like the mafia ,people will only respect the bad and violent and the ones who show no compassion
 

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This also caused my DPDR cause I kept thinking why is everyone so cruel and why is the evil rewarded more than good a lot of times...
I read a quote saying: God doesn't punish the evil, only the weak.

(Not saying that niceness is weakness, it was just kind fo interesting)
 

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Short answer yes
 

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Yes, I agree with this. I have compassion for others, and certain people have taken advantage of this quality. So, I have

become very guarded around people as a result. I believe selfish and heartless people do in fact get satisfaction from

making others suffer. But, having compassion is not a weakness.....it's just that bad people use it against you as a way

to gain their power. I have often wondered why this girl I know (who is very selfish and lies a lot) never goes through

horrible life events like most nice people do. She just skates through life. It's not right.
 

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Why is it that people who are compassionate suffer the most...
Whenever i meet a good person I will find that this person is battling problems inflicted by others.
Do people see nice people as prey so they can feel powerful ?

To me societies all work like the mafia ,people will only respect the bad and violent and the ones who show no compassion
People who suffer with their mental health more than likely do so because they care way too much about others and the world in general...Our conscience is actually our own worst enemy because its at the heart of all the worrying we do....Worrying = Anxiety = Stress = DP.......

Its 100% fact that honest decent people suffer more in life....They become doormats for what I call " The toxic" people.....I have literally eliminated every toxic person i ever knew out of my life and ive never felt so stress free....I have applied a 3 strikes and your out rule with all people now....F""k me over once and I will forgive you, F**k me over twice and I will warn you, F**k me over 3 times and I blank you..........This applies to everyone...Family, friends, girlfriends, co workers etc etc.....My life is now 50% me and 50% the rest of the world....In the old days it was 10% me and 90% the rest of the world....That didnt work and as a result I suffered tremendously....Its all about balance and standing up for yourself as an individual....

The other thing to remember is to not go in the opposite direction and become totally self centered.....Theres a mid ground to be found....Its called balance!!!!!

Being a doormat is just as bad as being totally selfish and self centered.....You will suffer just as much be being too much of either....When we are doormats we feel totally used and abused...When we are self centered we become guilty....

The answer is to sit in the middle as best we can....Dont forget others but dont forget yourself either......
 

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I agree that being a nice person can and will make your life hell. My problem was being a nice decent human being and a people pleaser having to do favours for other people just so they can respect me. However, they didn't respect me for the favours I did and they took advantage of me and only used me for their benefit when they wanted a favour done and disposed of me once the favour was done which partly resulted in me suffering anxiety and depression, low self esteem and eventually DPDR.
 
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