Do people know you?

People who love me irl would tell me that they would still see "me" while I was DPd. My main issue was complete detachment from my identity, so it meant something to me, to know that at least superficially I am still the same person to them. However, they felt hurt by my non-responsiveness, as they really could not understand my profound detachment from myself. It tells me that people tend to maintain their image of you, even while you are DPd, but if they never experienced DP, they cannot understand that you cannot be there for them emotionally as you used to, because on some level you are not really there.