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Does anyone else not feel intouch with their feelings?

Like I cant feel excited or happy or content with anything and even when I cry and dont really feel anything?

It feels like my body is crying but IM not crying.

I just feel numb, I cant think of a reason to live really, but I try.

This morning I had an episode of almost complete numbness where I couldnt answer my parents when they talked to me, they waved at my face but I just didnt speak out. Its like I couldnt, I didnt see a point in it or something.

anyone else can relate?
 

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It sounds like pretty classic symptoms, so I'm sure many will relate.

I do think that processes can and do still happen even when we don't feel connected to them though, so it may be good to allow your body to cry despite not feeling like it is you crying. You might get to a point where you release enough tension that way to start feeling more connected.
 

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Being emotionally numb was the symptom that really raised a red flag and made me realize something was wrong. My DP came on suddenly after a major panic attack induced by weed and the first thing I started noticing as I was calming down from the panic was that I had lost all my feelings for my boyfriend. Over the following days I sank into a horrible depression- and I have never struggled with any kind of depression or real anxiety in the past- and I just felt hopeless and like I wanted to die every second of the day.

I thought I was only numb to positive emotions, but it's been almost a year since the onset of my DP and I don't experience any emotions except for anxiety, fear and a sense of dread/ impending doom at times- but this has gotten substantially better with time. Not only can I not feel happiness, peace, excitement or love, I also don't get angry and can't feel sadness or grief. I didn't even blink an eye on the two year anniversary of my mother's death in August.

I can't tell if it's more frustrating to not be able to enjoy life or look forward to anything or to be unable to grieve and connect to the sadness and work through it.

I also don't feel anything after I cry, and sometimes I'd say I feel worse after I've been crying because I get all worked up and there's never a resolution or feeling of relief like I used to get after I cried. I also don't feel the endorphins after I work out at the gym.

So, you're not alone. I'm pretty sure a bunch of people deal with the absence of their emotions- or the numbness of them. They're still in there somewhere but according to my therapist the subconscious got emotionally overwhelmed at some point (by whatever the root cause of your DP was) and decided to just shut down instead of trying to process whatever was too painful or overpowering to handle at the time.

People often describe being able to intellectually understand their emotions- they realize that they must be sad because they're crying, etc. but they're just completely unable to connect with those emotions or feel them on any other level.
 

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Being emotionally numb was the symptom that really raised a red flag and made me realize something was wrong. My DP came on suddenly after a major panic attack induced by weed and the first thing I started noticing as I was calming down from the panic was that I had lost all my feelings for my boyfriend. Over the following days I sank into a horrible depression- and I have never struggled with any kind of depression or real anxiety in the past- and I just felt hopeless and like I wanted to die every second of the day.

I thought I was only numb to positive emotions, but it's been almost a year since the onset of my DP and I don't experience any emotions except for anxiety, fear and a sense of dread/ impending doom at times- but this has gotten substantially better with time. Not only can I not feel happiness, peace, excitement or love, I also don't get angry and can't feel sadness or grief. I didn't even blink an eye on the two year anniversary of my mother's death in August.

I can't tell if it's more frustrating to not be able to enjoy life or look forward to anything or to be unable to grieve and connect to the sadness and work through it.

I also don't feel anything after I cry, and sometimes I'd say I feel worse after I've been crying because I get all worked up and there's never a resolution or feeling of relief like I used to get after I cried. I also don't feel the endorphins after I work out at the gym.

So, you're not alone. I'm pretty sure a bunch of people deal with the absence of their emotions- or the numbness of them. They're still in there somewhere but according to my therapist the subconscious got emotionally overwhelmed at some point (by whatever the root cause of your DP was) and decided to just shut down instead of trying to process whatever was too painful or overpowering to handle at the time.

People often describe being able to intellectually understand their emotions- they realize that they must be sad because they're crying, etc. but they're just completely unable to connect with those emotions or feel them on any other level.
So what did your therapist said about resolving those emotional issues in the subconscious? how does one connect with it to go through it? because my therapist says i'm too numb and he can't do any bodywork with me, i literally don't feel a single thing in my body when i'm going back to past trauma's..
 

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I think that when trying to reach a resolution of emotional issues, whether we are crying or calmly observing, you do have to guide yourself towards it, and you can do this with inner dialogue and self-talk. Often when we are stuck we are not actually giving ourselves any direction, just endlessly blaming ourselves. Shame and self-reproach can be the biggest obstacle.

If a friend was in the same predicament and said the things we might typically say to ourselves, we would know to gently correct them over issues like taking way too much responsibility for things that were likely out of their control, or believing themselves to be a terrible person when we know that not to be the case, yet we can be merciless with ourselves. People and events can make us feel so bad we fear awful consequences, but that doesn't mean we are bad or that anything bad is going to happen. So if you use your self-talk in a wholly supportive and constructive way it can direct you towards resolution. It is a long process and takes time and persistence, but changes can and do happen as this style of thinking is established and becomes subconscious and automatic.
 

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So what did your therapist said about resolving those emotional issues in the subconscious? how does one connect with it to go through it? because my therapist says i'm too numb and he can't do any bodywork with me, i literally don't feel a single thing in my body when i'm going back to past trauma's..
My therapist talks a lot about setting intentions. She says to set the intention to allow space for the emotions to come up; that even if they aren't present at all in the beginning that laying a groundwork by having those intentions and making that space can help create an opening for the emotions to come through.

She tries to encourage me to talk less in therapy and attempt to tune in to how certain subjects I'm discussing make me feel- but I usually come up empty handed because I genuinely just feel hollow and empty. I think having a meditation practice would be helpful for this, but I'm a bit too antsy and uncomfortable with "doing nothing" to have one at the moment.

I'm very similar to you- I can talk about past traumas as if I'm describing what I've had for breakfast. The only exception is that I can occasionally be triggered by something and then spend minutes, hours or days in a state of fight/flight, panicky and anxious. I guess I still have access to those emotions- lucky me.

I wish I had more answers. I think these things just take time. I've been trying to get answers about what other people have done to regain their emotions but it seems like there isn't a one size fits all answer. Some people never get back in touch with their emotions while others report being able to feel the full spectrum again with time.
 

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Hello Smallbean,

i have mostly the same symptoms of emotional numbness like you. Its horrible for me i get it after my ex-girlfriend slip me weed muffin under 5 months ago.

Your last post was in Nov 2018. You are feeling now better ?

I would be grateful when you answer me

Run To Me
 
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