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has anyone been stuck at some point in there lives, and feeling that no progress or growth is being made? whether it would be with work, enviroment, people? How about being stuck, but being so riddled with fear and anxiety that it feels like it is impossible to change things? how did you get out of that rut? what did you do? where did you find the courage? :?:
 

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Well , still not out of the rut, but I can tell you , I have to go on , no matter how much fear. before this I was confident and loved to do things, Now fear keeps me cautious and worried... but what keeps me looking for the answer is my kids. Most of them grown up but still have one teenager at home. I don't want them to think of me as a quitter, or a guy who gave up, no matter how crazy it feels inside my head...I have to continue. I am their dad and I want to be there for them no matter how hard..... I draw my strength from God each day.. no offense if you don't believe, that is just my opinion, I get my courage from the love for my family and I get my encouragement from people on this posting site..... I am by no means out of the woods on this thing, but I believe, that if you have faith, seek answers, and truly love your friends and family, that your life, my life, it will all come together.. it will, there is hope my friend even in discouragement when we are in the pit o fhis hell, look for the smallest light.
 

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jophe,

I did - but I know that my cure wasn't healthy; although the effect of my cure was (yes, I did write a sentence that cryptic).

I basically got married to leave myself and focus on the outside. We got divorced (for many, many different reasons - many incompatabilities) and I had to fend for myself. But, the CHANGE of my life - the effect of the change in placement, the change in mindset, the change in many things resulted in me getting out of many ruts I was in. I'm not sure if I'm being perfectly clear here, but, basically.....

If you want change in something, then change anything.

If that means moving to a different town, or changing jobs, or relationships or what-have-you - do something, physically and in actuality. The result of doing so will mean other things are easier to change too, and so forth.

Change begots change.
 

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Yes, I've felt like this on a few occasion, it's not nice.

I remember at my worst thinking that I'd forgotten what it was to be human. I didn't know what to do with myself, what I should/shouldn't be doing - so I just wasted my time watching daytime TV or sitting online whilst having bad anxiety.

It's best to try and push yourself out of those states as quick as possible, I feel.
 

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The thought of worse fear keeps me going. It's like this. If I was to lose my job everything would implode. We wouldn't be able to keep our assests because of the mortages, my wife would lose all faith in me and possibly leave and take the most preciouse thing I have which is my son. Not going on would mean stress 100 000 times more than now. When I'm at work and I'm sitting there hardly able to breath from fear I keep going and trust me it is so f***ing hard. All I want to do is run and sometimes I do and then I feel like I've lost the battle. Must keep going no matter what.
 

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Does your wife work Milan? I doubt if you lost your job your wife would take your child from you.
 

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She is in the process of selling her business. The story is a bit more complicated especially with what has happend in our life the last couple of years and this disorder makes it so much more difficult. She may not take our son but the splitting up will make it so complicated (if it were to happen). I can not believe that only two years ago life was on the threshold of becoming a great experience with regards to feelings, security, oppurtunities etc. and then it took a 180 deg turn. I never thought I would be in this position at this age. Must keep going on even if somedays seem totally futile.
 
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change begots change - i believe that

that is what my plan of action will be, change the little things, then change the bigger things, and so forth until the most important changes happen. which is basically what i have been doing, but i still get frustrated when the big changes hadn't happened yet. this is the hardest thing that i have ever have to face - even harder than the dp/dr itself. it is a horribl;e feeling to know that you have all of these talents, but you hold yourself back at a subconscious level. but what helps me is knowing that it is a work in progress, and that i can change things and will.

Milan - i know that thinking process all to well, it is like you can take a trivial event and imagine it
 

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jophe said:
change begots change - i believe that

that is what my plan of action will be, change the little things, then change the bigger things, and so forth until the most important changes happen. which is basically what i have been doing, but i still get frustrated when the big changes hadn't happened yet. this is the hardest thing that i have ever have to face - even harder than the dp/dr itself. it is a horribl;e feeling to know that you have all of these talents, but you hold yourself back at a subconscious level. but what helps me is knowing that it is a work in progress, and that i can change things and will.

Milan - i know that thinking process all to well, it is like you can take a trivial event and imagine it
Yes! This is what I need to do to change myself. For some reason, I have never thought of this myself. I need to change little things first. I have been having social problems, but I think that it has to do with having a rather poor family life. If I can straighten things out first with my mother, father, and brother, then things will start to fall into place. After my family life is what I want it to be, then maybe I will be happier and have more confidence and be able to get along better with other people.
 
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jophe said:
has anyone been stuck at some point in there lives, and feeling that no progress or growth is being made?
I am at that point in my life to the MOST profound level although I am young (almost 21 yrs). I definitely have a hard time seeing a purpose for life most days because it is SO confusing. But like everyone says, I no longer see death as a way out, I keep going. I try to set goals for myself on a daily-even hourly-basis because my anxiety gets so out of whack I can't focus on anything more than that. When I conquer the small things like that, that's what keeps me going. Most of all, I have a deep faith in my Savior and his promises are what give me guidance and hope. The gifts the Lord has given me-family, my talents and abilities, friends, opportunity for education, health (it could be worse), the country where I live, and other provisions, these are what keep me going, even though at times it's hard to believe these gifts are actually real. I choose to believe they are. I know it will get better. Blessings.
 
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