Throughout my life, I would allow people to get away with being mean and disrespectful because often they would preface what they said by saying that were doing me a favor by being brutally honest, by toughening me up for the harsh world which apparently I was deemed too nice and too naive to thrive in. And for that reason, instead of expressing hurt and dismay, I would suck it up like it was a vaccination, something that hurt at that moment, but would do me good at some later time. Then one day I came across this quote by someone named LR Knost. It read 'It's not our job to toughen our children up to face a cruel and heartless world. It's our job to raise children who will make this world a little less cruel and heartless." and it made me feel a little better.