I know we all appreciate the site for what it is and what it's done for us, but please guys. PLEASE. This place can turn into a trap. You are attached to the comfort it brings, but it's also causing you to focus on your DP/DR way more than you have to or should. This becomes a cycle and is very hard to break when you get locked into it. I needed to wean myself off of here like a heroin addict years ago. Now whenever I come back I start to hyperfocus again and can feel my symptoms popping back in despite not really suffering from them in day to day life. Seriously consider limiting the time you spend here. Don't let it become too much of a safety net. Put focus on bettering yourself and figuring out medications or therapys that can beneficial.
Coming on here daily is detrimental to recovery
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I understand what you mean, but I’ll have to say I don’t agree entirely. Like the person above said there are different ways to recovery and it’s just about finding what works for you. To me personally this forum isn’t building onto my dpdr nor making it stay. It’s helping me a bunch to feel less alone and there are great people here who’s given me plenty of tips on how to deal with it. But I do agree that this forum should in no way be some sort of security blanket to hold onto. I would say find whatever works for you and stick with that. If going on this forum every once in a while/daily helps then there’s no reason to cut it out.
This is a forum helps me understand what Im dealing with. It is hard to understand when your not in connectin with yourself what is happening. Knowledge for me has be one of the keys to start getting better.
Completely agree!
It sure doesn't do it any good either. I can asure you that
You will understand once you recover from DP. You are giving into a cycle of anxious thinking. It's the similar as googling health related issues when having panic attacks. It's like "hitting yourself in the head with a hammer because you have a headache" as they say in AA lol
The constant need to seek comfort is so bad. Ask anyone who's had this and recovered 99% of them will tell you the same thing. I mean be honest, after a month or two you've read every bit of information. What more could you understand? After that comes implementing those ideas and strategies. I'm not saying this to be a dick, its just something that has been proven time and time again.
I dont understand people who push their own path as the truth. Really you need to go out of you box. I have become better on a totaly different path. Others will as well. All people doesnt work the same as you. You found your way, good. Dont push it to be true to every other person. Maybe we dont use the forum the way you did?
For you maybe. I needed to focus on it to learn my path to recovery.
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well, all people doesnt work the same as you, as well. and you are speaking also, only for yourself. maybe someone will read this, who needs to go off, of this forum to recover. so why do you say to someone, what they have to do? this forum is not only for you. if you think this doesnt applie to you, then make your own opinion. but do not „say what to do". this is not a private conversation between you and freeze. its for everybody here.
You misread my post enormesly. I dont even know what to answer you. Read it again.
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I don't actively try to think about my DPDR, however there's no denying it. I don't know if that's the same as focusing on it, because i notice myself just going about as i usually do but the overwhelmingness of my DPDR just rears its ugly head every second of every day. I've decided to make an account on here for that reason, maybe i can relate to some people and maybe 'not focusing' on it doesn't make it better or worse.
Some people get helped by not focusing on it. Others, like me, needs to do the opposite. I have always pushed away every bad and negative feeling and my way out of this is learning to accept them, that include DpDr. Welcome. Hope you find info in here that helps you.
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precisely, maybe just rejecting these thoughts and how we process them is wrong. I honestly am not sure. With certain buddhist practices, they become aware of them 'passively', let them come and then drift by. However, i must say that for me, it's not the anxious thoughts that worries me more, it's the overwhelming experience of feeling... drugged, or that of an out of body experience you have when you feel incredibly drunk and are peering over the toilet taking a piss at a bar. For me, that is the case every waking second, except i can walk fine and seem relatively normal to people. I don't have particular issue with balance, which you would imagine someone like me going fucking coo coo at this shit. It is almost like i am not even here. My consciousness is hanging by a thread. Do i even exist? don't know.Some people get helped by not focusing on it. Others, like me, needs to do the opposite. I have always pushed away every bad and negative feeling and my way out of this is learning to accept them, that include DpDr. Welcome. Hope you find info in here that helps you.![smile.png]()
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I completely understand. I've been on this forum since I was 14 and I've adopted the strategy of not thinking about it, but it's always there. I'm on here on and off but the DPDR hasn't gone away. I'm almost 20 and I'm pretty sure there's no end to this because it's my fault I have my DPDR in the first place. It makes me scared but at the same time, I don't care.
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if you dont mind, what do you mean with „its my fault". and are you from germany? because your nickname is the german word for dissociation.
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The way I got my DPDR is because I intentionally separated myself from my emotions and in turn, got DPDR. I'm not from Germany, but I am of German descent and was studying German when I made my account!
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I also don't think about it. I've been told to ignore it but it's still here anyway, after all this time.. so i ask myself am i doing the wrong thing in just acting like nothing is wrong. You would think whatever was wrong would sort itself out naturally. In my opinion, trying to ignore it might even have helped to make my symptoms worse, because i might be repeating the same bad habits and mistakes i made to initially trigger it in the first place. Maybe negative self-talk? I do it quite a bit. Like, i have a dark sense of humor too which was said to be a bad thing.. but is this enough to warrant my symptoms 3 years later? Not sure. I think by being aware of my DPDR and reminding myself to try to heal. I've been getting into meditation lately and breathing techniques, becomes more self aware and present rather than going about my days unconsciously and without change!
I for sure believe that “not thinking about it” just makes the symptoms a lot worse for many people experiencing dpdr. Especially if it’s induced by anxiety. It’s like, I wouldn’t normally treat my anxiety by ignoring it that’ll just obviously not work, so that’s not something I would do with the dpdr either. Any other anxiety condition would be treated by things like journaling, breathing exercising, good diet etc. So why would dpdr be treated by “ignoring” it? Personally I love to journal whenever I feel like it to get a clear idea of what I’m feeling, and to just get out all of my bad thoughts (or good for that matter). Also giving myself a chance to walk away from a tough situation and breathe for a few seconds. To me at least it hasn’t gone better when I just keep on going and going even when I obviously feel very dissociated. It’s all about accepting the weird feelings but putting them aside at times to be able to live life.
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