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HI, i am fairly new here, but just wondered if anyone else like myself is unable to work due to panic , anxiety, dr, etc etc...I was medically retired from my job 7 years ago, and have been on incapacity benefit since. I have tried 2 or 3 times to get back into work, each time failing dismally....Is there anyone else in similar circumstances, i am only 31 and to be medically retired seems a bit bizarre to some i meet..Thanks, Paul
 
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i cant work at all and have not in almost 2 years. i am 21 years old and this is very hard on my wife and myself. i really wish i could work but i cant .....it really sucks...i am in benzo w.d and have severe anxiety/dr/dp.....it makes me really dizzy and spaced out due to the above mentioned symptoms....
 

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I'm 21 and am just in the process of finishing my degree and am just about to embark on a snowboarding instructors course in new zealand even though i feel my dp has not been getting any better since it started 15 months ago.

I hate this dp and it does interfere with aspects of my life, e.g going out, feeling blue, constantly tired, along with the usual dp symptoms and i have been trying to make my peace with myself that i am stuck with this for the indefinate future.

When deciding whether to do the course and take on a new stage in my life i figured i could either live out a life wollowing in my dp hell, or at least enjoying life to the best of my ability whilst living with dp. I think im going to enjoy life better snowboarding down a mountain with dp than living in the middle of london with dp.

You can live with dp, it is dibilitating yes, but you can learn to live with this and make the most out of life, enjoy it to the best of your ability, we only have one.

My advise is go do the one thing that you used to dream of when you were a child, get that dream job!!!
 

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When this first came on I was making myself carry on with school and work a furrther 12-16 hours a week in a call-center. Not the best idea, but at the time I'd always thought that the harder I pushed myself the stronger I'd get at overcoming all my issues.

Didn't really work out, so I quit, and am barely keeping on top of schoolwork now.
 
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Hi Paul, I'm 37 and have not been working for a couple of years now. I used to be a technical manager in a job I really liked, but DR/DP and anxiety drowe me away. So, I have been without a job for a while now.

It's awkward when I meet new people and I have to tell them what I do for a living, but what the hell...

I would really like to get back to some kind of work, but I guess it's only going to be ? time. The question is, when is the time right. I've set as a goal that, as soon as I have not had any severe DR/DP symptoms for 2 months, I'm fit for going back to work. I don't know if that is realistic or anything, but since no one seems to be able to help me with that question, it has to do.

The next question is, if I'm able to find a part time job in the field I'm working in - but that's something to worry about in the future...
 

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its more than just .. if you can or if you cant. its not that black and white. its more about longevity. sooner or later your boss catches on to you being late all the time, constant bathroom breaks cause you have anxiety shatz, calling in sick too much, zoning out when you should be focusing. this is the reason why i suck at jobs. ive realized that its going to take more imagination and finding an occupation where i can work around my illness.
 

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It's absolutely necessary for me to work. If I sat at home wallowing in my misery (and I'm not suggesting any of you are), then I might as well check out right away. That's not life, it's surrender.
 

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It's absolutely necessary for me to work. If I sat at home wallowing in my misery (and I'm not suggesting any of you are), then I might as well check out right away. That's not life, it's surrender.
I know I'm a hypocrite in this respect, but it is darn true.
 

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My problem is that I don't want to work, or study. I'm not even panicky or anxious, I'm just dp:d and depressed. All I want is to feel better and my so called life is in some way on hold while I wait that to happen. It's just that nothing seems to work, so I quit trying...
 

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so i quit trying...
So you're happy in your misery are you ?

Sorry, that sounded flippant - but I'm sure if I had have quit trying all those years ago, I'd still be DR/DP'd. That's life is about....trying...rising above the challanges. You're not going to recover by doing nothing, I'm sure you know that anyway, because you're still in the shit. Just because everything you've tried so far hasn't worked doesn't mean that one day something will. I was lucky, my DR faded over a year (on two seperate occassions), and despite my life falling to pieces (divorce, bereavement, losing jobs, house) the DR still hasn't returned. Sure, I'm wracked with anxiety most of the time, but I'm be fecked if I'm going to let it ruin my life.

I know it's exhausting trying to cope with DR/DP/Depression, but there are people on this forum who thought they were doomed to a life of DR/DP but have recovered.

The choice is your's.
 

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good advice
im not working but i push myself as far as i can everyday....ive just been for a drive purposely in the rush hour to see how i cope with traffic jams...i had a bit of a panic calmed down then drove home...i now feel dissapointed in myself and feel like smashing this silly head of mine against the wall but im gonna have to keep on trying
 
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