[peaceboy23]

So i just wanted to write a little post and say that I'm getting better at focusing outward. I used to think I was doing this ok, but then i started to realize, everytime I got a feeling I was STILL focusing on the feeling, trying to dissect it, figure out why I wsa feeling that way, trying to come up with the perfect "thought" to remedy the feeling. I am slowly (it is a slow process, unfortunately) getting better at distraction and focusing outward on other thigns when I start feeling bad. I'm the classic anxiety person though, because in saying this, i assume that I will now get worse. However, it really is the best thing you can do, and it is very very slow and takes time, but it does make me feel a little bit better thus far. With this and therapy on underlying issues, i have more hope that I can beat this.

 

[Sojourner]

Hey, that's great news, peaceboy!

And isn't it paradoxical in the end? We need to do both (but each one in its own proper time and place) -- focus outward and deal with the inner stuff. Maybe it's like riding a bicycle and we just have to get the hang of it. Once we do, we're good for life!

 

[Guest]

It's great to hear that. The problem with most of us is that we focus inward and can't escape,i know i do that 24/7.

I belive as a 17 years dper (long uh?) that the problem is that we are in trance of focusing and analyzing all the time.
I was once cure by the way you did (focusing outward) but it's been a lot time that i am in trance and can't get out