in the oh so slightest defense of ziggo, i think its ok to bring up dialogue on these issues even if its in a sarcastic way. he just made a joke, maybe it wasnt totally pollitically correct, but i dont think it was offensive. its been a year and a half since i was raped. sure i was a victim, and im mad as hell about it, but im not going to let that experience consume the rest of the life i have left. and even though what happened to me was horrible, i still have not lost my empathy. thats something that pighunter icehead couldnt take from me. my compassion even for him. i could regard him as the primordial putrid scum of the earth, and i have many times. ive also planned very elaborately how to exact my revenge. not to go into detail, but abugrab has nothing on me! and the end result would have been splattered hamburger from a nice shotgun blast to his nether regions.
but i have to forgive him. not for his own sake.. but for mine. hes a sick person. thats all. and i cant spend my life being angry and hateful, i have to continue to grow and part of that growth is forgiveness and the willingness to understand. even when there is nothing there to understand.
yes its difficult to understand the mind of a rapist. of course the first thought is,,, why would you want to?? but then again.. why would someone want to understand mental illness?
i think making light of serious situations is not always appropriate, but sometimes its an easy way to create some kind of dialogue. at least, thats what i tried to do with it, maybe no one read my post... but what i was trying to say is that there is no harm in not PLAYING the role of the victim when those situations arise. for instance.. i dont like to talk about my rape experience because its something i want to forget.. but i also am not embarassed by it.. because even though i was victimized, and those scars may never heal.. i can be proud of the thought that i left some pretty nice scars on him that will be there forever, and whenever he looks in the mirror he will remember it. and he will always regret that he let me live. because now he knows he chose the wrong b!tch to mess with, cause i was crazy enough to take a few chunks out of him.. who knows what ill do to him when i see him again. and hell always have that thought in the back of his mind.
point is we dont HAVE to be the VICTIM. we can be just as intimidating and just as powerful and just as dangerous no matter how petite and fragile we look. we CAN stick up for ourselves. men are fragile too. so it pays to be prepared for it. there are kookoos out there just waiting to pounce on a hot available chick, and no ammount of scolding and political correctness is gonna do anything for you if youre not prepared. just saying rape is wrong to someone who has a psychopathic urge to do so is not going to stop them im sorry but that is wishful thinking at its worst. personally i think guys would be alot less likely to act on their urges if women in general would start asserting their female dominance over the weaker male sex.
but again.. thats just my opinion.