My take on this is, for me at least, if you are searching for love-especially a "special love"-in the interest of curing your DP, you are unlikely to find it. Sometimes historically somebody has fallen into my lap. Someone who makes existence a little lighter. Somebody who can at least momentarily bring about some brightness and color into the world. Someone who can actually bring out a little personality in me. Unfortunately, I never maintain it and the relationship inevitably ends in failure, sometimes dramatically so. I also often feel like I'm using the person as a "DP vaccine", so to speak (the metaphor is sloppy, but you get the idea). So I've decided relationships just aren't in the cards unless/until I get better by some other means.
I'm happy that you found love and happiness, though.