avoidance makes me feel good...

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university girl

Discussion Starter · Dec 31, 2004

Hey... I'm finding I'm less depressed now because I have stayed away from things that make my DP/DR worse. Those things would be work, school, grocery stores, malls, the gym, and others. I realize I get depressed and suicidal when my DP/DR is bad. Guess I'm practicing avoidance behaviour. But... I do feel happier. Is this bad?!

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kenc127

· #4 · Jan 2, 2005

hmm, hey Uni.

I think what you are saying makes sense, but I think facing the very things that frighten you will help you in the long run, but it is ultimately the fear of these things that causes teh DPDR to begin with.

I know what you are saying though. There have been times where I haven't moved my ass out of the house because of my DP. Once I got out more, the fear/anxiety seemed to subside, but initially I was a NERVOUS WRECK.

Don't let yourself be paralyzed, you only have one life to live. You can do this.

Ken

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kenc127

· #6 · Jan 3, 2005

Hey uni

I don't think it's 'wrong' or 'bad' of you lol. Believe me, my life is no picnic so I have no room to criticize. What I'm saying though is that the fear means something. It means that something is trying to get through, but hasn't yet and that's why it still bothers you. By continuing to face the fears and then asking yourself WHAT is making me feel this way and WHY, you might be able to defuse some of these fears by helping your mind to perceive it differently.

A mall used to be a scary place for me for a while. The place looked like a damn movie and people were strange looking. I could never figure out why, but it just bothered me. Then one day I realized that hey, I'm freaked out of losing my mind in front of all these strangers; of losing my control. That's why I am so damn scared. I haven't been freaked of the mall since. I didn't want to lose control of myself, and that fear kept me away from malls. i think much of DPDR is about the fear of losing control.

You're a smart girl, what do you think?

Ken

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kenc127

· #8 · Jan 3, 2005

I think it's a combination of both.

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