[willbarwa]

Does anyone here have kids, children? I was wondering if they are a motivation to improve your DP or if having them in your life distracts you long enough throughout the day that you forget you have DP?

At the time when my DP was at its strongest, I decided I didn't want to leave this world (not suicidal) without having children with my gf. Now that my DP is better I feel like maybe I should have waited but part of me also tells me I shouldn't have and that I made the right decision. I see the little fella and he strikes my heart. He is an amazing thing to look at, as he grows, smiles back at you and eventually he will start forming his first words and start walking as well. I want to be there for all of that. But sometimes I think that any decision I made while I had full-set DP, was arbitrary and that being at such a vulnerable state I made choices I probably would have thought about longer.

There is a need to express what has happened now that my DP is practically non-existent. Not to sound crass, but it changed so many things in me that sometimes I just think about leaving my old life -- this present life, and just explore the world witout having to care for anyone or anyone having to care for me. Feels lonely and sad and yet a part of me wants to be a father.

 

[Chip1021]

Well, whether or not having a kid while DP'ed was a good idea or not is certainly an arguable point, but in your case, it's a moot point. You made your decision. You have a child now. It's wonderful that you are now practically DP-free, but you do have an obligation at this point to be a father to your child. Of course, that doesn't mean you can't still live a good life, and explore new things...in fact, without the DP holding you back, it will probably be better, wouldn't you think?

I'm generally a "live and let live" type of a person, with the major exception having to do with bearing and raising children. After that, your life is no longer your own to do whatever you choose. It's one of the (many, many) reasons I'm confident I'll never be a father.

 

[forestx5]

Parenting can be difficult if you are symptomatic. Intrusive thoughts can be very disturbing. Psychiatric illness affects life decisions in many ways.