Afraid, what should I do?

632 Views 2 Replies 2 Participants Last post by maria, Mar 14, 2005

Discussion Starter · Mar 13, 2005

Next week I have planned to go and see my parents for the Easter Holidays.

Problem is, I have to take the train! The thought of going to the central station (uhhh) and riding on that train gives birth to a series of little horrors.

To sum it up:
1) I'm afraid to be too late for the train
2) I'm afraid of being at the station (lots of people, noise)
3) I'm afraid that the train will crash with another train, or become derailed
4) I'm afraid that someone will steal my money and/or ticket
5) I'm afraid that the toilet will be out of order
6) I'm afraid of being afraid!
7) And the list goes on...

Now, I really want to visit my parents, but, as you see, I'm afraid of all the things that might happen and I get the feeling "I just want to stay at home..."

The pattern is well known to me:

1) Make appointment
2) Start to feel afraid about everything that can go wrong about the appointment
3) Make it worse
4) ...and worse...
5) Cancel appointment!

The above pattern is really succesfull at building anxiety! It's silly, but I don't know how to avoid it!

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maria

· #3 · Mar 14, 2005

take the bus ?

No, your thinking does sound difficult. I don't know what if feels like, but Dr. Phil, the new Freud, said all fears stem from one thing, the fear of losing control. This way instead of 100 little fears (of which some you can avoid, some you can't) you have this one big one but the problem of how to get your ass to your parents' house still remains. Could anyone come with you? Does maybe listening to music help at all? Do you use medicine?

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