If it’s a problem of the parents and the child’s ignorance of their parents problem and so the child learns to blame themselves, then in becoming aware of themselves they find that theyve been suppressed due to past trauma, then what’s next? And what is the objective meaning of proper care from your family? I would venture to say it’s a highly subjective experience. And if you do have childhood trauma whether you know it or not, what is the purpose in measuring the problem by finding out whose at fault? “Why am I traumatized”? We then might try to rationalize why, who did it, and point fingers at our parents or members of our family etc. Or even ourselves. I’d say that the only plausible reason to find out “who or what” made us traumatized is to open our eyes to it so we can get away from them. That is, if they’re a forever problem.Another tip I bring to you guys.
In DP, you all try to "solve" this, which is understandable, but know this: VAST majority of people with DP are INTROVERTED intuitives (in Myers Briggs IN). Introverted. Trauma, a dysfunctional family system made this introversion go TOO FAR in you.
What am I trying to say? How this can be an advice / tip again?
What I mean is, that the core of your problem is NOT something you can find "inside". The core problem is, that BECAUSE of the VERY SUBOPTIMUM care you received from your family, you simply do not sense, realize, understand, grasp, that YOU are a WORTHY human being. I know that when you have DP and read this, you don't really even get what the hell I mean. (Note: you don't need to have two "bad parents" in order to receive bad parenting. Lot of well meaning parents do very harmful things to a child. My mother for example is a very sweet woman (ESFJ, Fe dom, full of empathy and love), but she was running away from home, from one terrible marriage to another.)
Meditate on that thought again and again (don't obsess) for days, weeks, until you get what I mean.
Probably all your life, you just been appreciated for what you DO or ACHIEVE, and not just for the fact that you are a SON OF GOD (no religious meaning here! just emotionally loaded), a WORTHY, UNIQUE HUMAN, who brings COLOR to this life otherwise would not exist!
If you GRASP this, you will be able to face ANY anxious thought, life situation, life question, ANYTHING with a calm, non-anxious mind, which means a CLEAR MIND.
YOU. ARE. OF. WORTH. AS. YOU. ARE. Right now, there in front of the screen, reading. YOU.
I don't care which exam you failed, I don't care how you get fired from what job, I don't care how you acted drunk, even if you physically hurt someone (which I do not promote). You are worthy.
Personally, I’m not going to put all my eggs in one basket and call it all a “childhood” trauma problem. That’s just extreme thinking