a big reason for anxiety and also dp/dr is the feeling of helplessness and lack of trust especially basic trust
what people like us need a lot is CONTROL
my father for example has always terrorized us and beat my mom etc. I had to grow up under his constant terror . not only that but also my teachers were fucking assholes . all the adults I should have get love from and trusted have stabbed me in the back . so what happens then ? you will feel in constant danger and be like "if I cant even trust them ...who can I trust ? if these people even harm me ..who wont ? "
living under such circumstances or having such experiences will also influence your own decisions in life . for example I have been to a school where I was very unhappy ...only to get that degree because my father always wanted me to study . or I have been to boxing gyms were the coachs were shit and total assholes but I have went there for years only because I thought so highly of them aka "they know better than me"
you will also lack the confidense to take what is yours in life . but let me tell you this and please tell this to yourself and believe in it :
YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO BE HAPPY ! ...YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO SAY WHEN SOMETHING BOTHERS YOU NO MATTER WHAT THE PERSON IN FRONT OF YOU WILL THINK OR FEEL !
YOU HAVE BASIC HUMAN RIGHTS ! YOU ARE A HUMAN LIKE EVERYONE ELSE !
some of you might not get instantly what I am trying to say but if you analyze your life you will see such patterns too I am sure
you can tell me your experiences or how you feel . I am 10000% sure that what I am just explaining you is a big part of why we feel often like shit in general and are unhappy etc