[person3]

So just now, I snapped at my dad and my brohter because:

He (my brother, Scott), has had some this or that crisis come up every day for the last two weeks. Somehow within the last 15 minutes he has to do his science paper (or at least get the info from the library), he decides i need to take him. He didn't think of this before. Yesterday he HAD TO GO TO TRAFFIC COURT before 4:00. No one could get this nicely arranged enough, so just when I'm cooling down and enjoying my day from some massive troubles, he pitches a fit because it's 3:30 and if he doesn't get this taken care of blah blah blah. I was oh just a tad suicidal last week from all my stresses but I didn't trust anyone enough to really bother them with it and here he is thinking that every day is his Bad Day and I should do something about it to get him out of the hole.

He always HAS to use the computer, he HAS to do like five papers and then gets pissy when i HAVE to do a paper, and he wants to show his friends the speakers...He HAS to have a cigarette because he's had a bad day and he WONT STOP ASKING ME FOR THEM, he disrespects me when I tell him I want to leave a place after taking him out somewhere because of his car...he offered me $100 to drive him to court, he was so desparate, he ended up giving me $12.11 in gas money and I fought a 20 out of him but gave it back because the money meant nothing to me anymore. Well..fuck him. He has 15 minutes to go to the school library and guess what? He's not going to get a ride. Why? Because i hate him. I'm sick of acting upon old feelings of guilt because he got treated bad as a child. So did I. You know what? Fuck him.

Just had to get that out.

 

[Guest]

So what has this to do with freudian analytic- based theories?

 

[person3]

hm...uh...maybe because it uh discusses the psychological interaction i have with my brother? is that ok?

 

[Guest]

Oh, I definitely see why it's in this forum, for sure.

I really know what you mean about (esp. family members) who "compete" for Worst State of Neediness. Man, do I know. It's like they expect the household to STOP entirely if they're having a "9" or "10" on a scale of 1-10 Bad Mental Mood. But...if everyone else is a 9, too, it ain't pretty.

Life is not a competition.

If you're not up to being mature, just don't be mature. The family will cope.

Also, I think as loud as you protest, it's YOU who makes you feel guilty. And there is no reason to hold onto old regrets, old guilts....you torment yourself as if there is never a "statute of limitations" on old crimes!!

 

[Guest]

hm...uh...maybe because it uh discusses the psychological interaction i have with my brother? is that ok?

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[Guest]

Oh, I definitely see why it's in this forum, for sure.

I really know what you mean about (esp. family members) who "compete" for Worst State of Neediness. Man, do I know. It's like they expect the household to STOP entirely if they're having a "9" or "10" on a scale of 1-10 Bad Mental Mood. But...if everyone else is a 9, too, it ain't pretty.

Life is not a competition.

If you're not up to being mature, just don't be mature. The family will cope.

Also, I think as loud as you protest, it's YOU who makes you feel guilty. And there is no reason to hold onto old regrets, old guilts....you torment yourself as if there is never a "statute of limitations" on old crimes!!

Worst state of neediness.

Not up to being mature.

statute of limitations on old crimes.

I think person3 should be really immature and pander exclusively to His/Her own needs for a day being indifferent to everyone else. I think He/She should mock regret and guilt for the sake of not being slave to His/Her whining Brother. The brother is getting through life on a free ticket by displaying tantrum behaviour. Person3 is acting like the "car pool" parent and like the retarded sibling who is easily pushed around into being forced off the computer etc.
I understand the rage of double-standards and the fruitlessness of maturity.

 

[person3]

I haven't reread this since a few more replies..thanks

 

[person3]

he gave me five cigarettes tonight woo

smoke break for me!

 

[Guest]

he gave me five cigarettes tonight woo

smoke break for me!

Who's "he"? Is that your Brother??? What's this got to do with Sigmund Freud?

I think I'm going to die. I think my brain just exploded...

Is it a phallic symbol or something???

I'm so glad you've got cigarettes. I smoked for 5 years...
:arrow:

 

[person3]

nah just sayin'...