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In Topic: Eating dinner with my mom makes me really anxious

09 January 2014 - 03:59 PM

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In Topic: Eating dinner with my mom makes me really anxious

08 January 2014 - 07:29 PM

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In Topic: Eating dinner with my mom makes me really anxious

08 January 2014 - 05:39 PM

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In Topic: Eating dinner with my mom makes me really anxious

08 January 2014 - 12:48 PM

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In Topic: Eating dinner with my mom makes me really anxious

08 January 2014 - 12:26 PM

Holy shit what the fuck?
Care to explain? Sounds really horrifying.

Due to popular demand!...Ok. Sorry, OP.

 

To be terse: It was all about control.

 

Controlling how I felt (Telling me that I'm angry when I wasn't. He was.), how and what I thought ("I'm the professional. I'm the boss. Don't question. You're over-analyzing everything. Your brain is working too hard"), and what I did (Telling me to go to treatments without my consent, with intimidation... because I was "affecting other people" (my mom and my therapist were annoyed/threatened by me).

 

NO therapist can tell you how you feel without you feeling it. Those who are in therapy - ask questions and stand up for yourselves. Question the therapist, get satisfying answers, and inquire about the treatment itself. Inform yourselves about therapy and basic psychology. You have the means and the abilities.

 

It was about intimidation. Projection. It was about tone and glares. It was about earning trust at my weakest so I could be manipulated to suit their own selfish and immature wants. It was about THEIR insecurities. It was all about them.

 

It started off helpful with basic CBT techniques for anxiety.

 

On my last session he asked me "why are you smiling"...in a dismissive tone. He told me to shave (I had gotten out of the hospital recently and wasn't really focused on my outward appearance...and I like my beard, asshole. Chicks dig it, you vain, insecure prick. :P). That I'm 23 years old and not a child anymore, and that I needed to "grow up".

 

Once when I cried he told me I sounded just like "a baby...did you know that?" - I said I didn't. He once told me a joke about how a therapist hung himself because of an annoying client after not listening to me and only to my mother for an hour; Shocked and speechless, I simply walked out of the room. At the time I had obsessions about "being a serial killer" and "being a narcissistic personality". Hmm...."Mirroring" anyone?

 

He asked me "how old do you think I look" and I laughed. He was serious. People apparently thought he was younger than he looks (I guessed about right :P). Who asks that question in their late 30's....in a therapy session....when you're the therapist?

 

He told me "If I was your mother I would have kicked you out a long time ago.". At the end I stopped going into session and guess what? They continued my own treatment without me. The mental health service provider I called to get a new therapist from was appalled at that last statement, and my story in general.

 

He's being investigated :).

 

The one person I met on here who became my ONLY true friend in my 23 years on this earth he discouraged me from seeing.

 

I got better for a while. More confident in myself and abilities to handle stress. I mirrored his behavior and it was all downhill from there, and it's an uphill journey. :)

 

Don't ignore your intuition. If you feel uncomfortable around a person there's a reason. If you feel a sense of foreboding  (Definition: the act of one who forebodes; also :  an omen, prediction, or presentiment especially of coming evil) before seeing someone...protect your heart.