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In Topic: School

Today, 04:34 PM

Hey, I’m 17 too and I know how it feels. You just gotta live through it, remember that even if this feeling is shitty, you will still make it and come out even better and more alive than before. If it makes you feel better, connect with people. Talk to your teachers, friends, or text/call someone on the phone. Eventually the feeling won’t be so strong and you wil be able to recover. Practice breathing techniques and keep in mind that school isn’t something very serious, you just gotta test yourself and learn at your own space. If you feel stressed - take a break, watch a movie. You will pull out of this eventually, trust me.

Thanks! This was honestly the best answer I could get lol. I’ll try and get myself to go to school tomorrow, hopefully it’ll go well now that I’ve got some tips:) appreciate it a lot!

In Topic: Anyone else with this?

26 November 2020 - 04:26 AM

You’re definitely not alone in this. I keep getting these attacks of like 10-30 seconds where I get super dizzy, and nothing looks real. And it’s not just like a regular “nothing feels real” sort of thing, it’s actually not being able to take in anything. This happens a lot when I’m in school. It’s when I haven’t thought about the dpdr for a while because I need to focus, and then looking up and almost getting chocked at my environment. Usually it’s when I look at my friends, and I get this sudden feeling like they’re literally not there, and I look around and nothings there. It’s like leaving my body for a few seconds, then not being able to come back completely. When I’m “gone” I look around and can’t tell where I am and it’s like I’m in a hallucination. By that point I’m so scared and chocked that there’s no way to ignore the feeling. It’s like suddenly I’m hit with reality and I just can’t believe it, so my brain shuts me back and denies everything existing. Idk it’s really weird.

I keep getting these weird moments of non-existence so I’m not sure how to fix it. But first and foremost I would advice you to not drink alcohol, at least for a bit because it seems to screw up someones brain for a bit. Personally I don’t drink alcohol anymore, because it really increases my feeling of dpdr. Now I’m sure you already know all that, but maybe try not to do it for the time being? I don’t know how much it disturbs you, but if it does I’d obviously advice you to stop for now. Also, if you’re going to look at the computer screen for a long time, try and look up every once and a while. I don’t know if these tips are super obvious to you, and they just don’t seem to work, but it works ok for me. If I have a class where I have to spend an hour looking at a computer, I try and make myself look up every 10 minutes. Just to kind of take on my environment for a bit. What room am I in? What kind of people are around me? How’s the temperature?
This is super difficult of course and could sometimes just build onto the dpdr, but after a while I feel like it helps a bit.

You’re definitely not alone feeling like that though. It’s honestly an everyday struggle for me. I guess the best thing to do is try and find solutions and work through the problem. It’s very difficult but in the end I think it’ll work out:)

In Topic: I can’t feel the presence of others

25 November 2020 - 04:37 PM

I feel like I reply to every one of your posts lol. But once again I and im sure a lot of other people can relate. People looking like holograms is exactly how I would describe it. I look at people and it's like my eyes are deceiving me; my vision tells me they are right there but I am convinced that they are not. It feels lonely. The very people that you would normally confide in feeling unfamiliar to you is one of the worst things about DPDR in my opinion. There's no safety anywhere.

All I can say is you have to force yourself to interact and be in the presence of people. Not eye opening advice I know, but thats the thing with this disorder- the way out is rather simple; Just keep living as fruitful as a life you can. I feel like what we are essentially accomplishing when we do this is we are relearning the human experience. This disorder sends us outside of reality, and when we peer back in it all looks confusing, pointless, and terrifying. We have to relearn how to understand life at the human level again. How to value and appreciate everything how it should be valued and appreciated. So, try to keep interacting with people, as hard as it is. I remember you saying that isolation made it worse for you, you don't wanna go down that path again.

Hii! Yes you reply to a lot of my posts, but then again I do post a lot haha, I appreciate you trying to help:)
It’s just like that, my eyes tell me they’re right there but my brain convince me they’re not. It’s been pretty lonely. Cause now I not only feel lonely just mentally, but also i have a physical feeling like I’m the only person on earth. It’s so so so terrifying and lonely. I’ve never thought of it, but it hit me that it really is.

You’re totally right. I mean I know that’s what I need already, but for some reason I feel a need of constant reassurance that that’s gonna help. I feel like that’s why I post here so much, because I need someone to confirm that I’m not alone and that I should keep doing the things that I did before. Maybe I need to work on that. But the way you describe it, to lose the sense of reality and then having to make sense of it when coming back again, is spot on what I struggle with. I’ve been isolating in my room for quite a while, I’ll try to get out and talk with someone.

Thanks again for the response, you have no idea how much it helps.

In Topic: What’re some of your best tips?

25 November 2020 - 01:22 PM

For me, focus and mindfulness meditation have helped me a ton! Also, I like to notice as many details as possible to get me out of my head. For example, if I go on a walk, I notice the different colors in the trees, how the light reflects on different objects, what people are wearing, windows, what people are doing, grass blowing in the wind, the way gravity feels, how my feet feel against my shoes, the air against my skin, smells, etc. Looking around this way can help take you out of your conceptual mind and see things a little clearer, and the focus can calm your mind. Just try to observe non-judgementally.

Hope this helps!

Thanks so much! It’s for sure difficult to sense those sort of things and I’ve noticed that it takes a lot of practise, but I’m sure it’ll help a ton when I get it right. I’ll for sure try that out if I manage to get outside lol! And yes, this is difficult when you’re deep in the dpdr, but as I said the small things can really help! Thanks:)

In Topic: Hi there I'm storm!

24 November 2020 - 02:03 PM

Hi and welcome! Well plenty of people here suffer from dissociation too, as well as me, so feel free to ask anything!:) I hope you’re feeling alright and that this whole thing is manageable for you. Wishing you all the best!