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Trith

Member Since 31 Dec 2019
Offline Last Active Jan 13 2021 01:35 PM
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In Topic: Would you date someone with DP-DR disorder?

05 January 2021 - 04:57 AM

I would date anyone provided I feel some attraction! This disorder adds a barrier between me and others and it has been realy hard to start relationships.


In Topic: How old are you?

05 January 2021 - 04:51 AM

I'm 36 and have been having DPDR since I was 15. It reached a peak when I was 20-22, with several intense DP episodes and then it got better and reached a plateau.

 

Be careful that people here might not be an accurate sample of people suffering from DP/DR. Perhaps older people rely less on forums than younger people, and could be underrepresented. But it is the best we can do, it is still interesting.


In Topic: Coming on here daily is detrimental to recovery

03 January 2021 - 08:04 AM

well, all people doesnt work the same as you, as well. and you are speaking also, only for yourself. maybe someone will read this, who needs to go off, of this forum to recover. so why do you say to someone, what they have to do? this forum is not only for you. if you think this doesnt applie to you, then make your own opinion. but do not „say what to do“. this is not a private conversation between you and freeze. its for everybody here.


He is precisely saying that all paths can be different and that one cannot push his personal path onto others.

And my history is in agreement with this. When I discovered that what I had was called DPDR, it was like a double edged sword. I had moments with less symptoms and moments with more symptoms as I was obsessing on them. I had the same effect when I was reading about people's struggles and symptoms online. Then I put it on the side for several years and did not read anything about it online for all that time and my symptoms remained constant. Now i have been look at this forum for some months and I come here regularly because I get inspired by some posts or find interesting information. And my symptoms did not worsen a single bit. I am not looking at symptoms anxiously anymore, i actually tend to skip the parts of posts that are only about symptoms as I don't get much from them usually. I am not anxious that my symptoms may stay forever as I already know they might and got relatively used to that idea. Reading about DPDR online doesn't do anything bad for me. This is my experience. I understand that it can be different for other people as it was the same for me for some time. So people should not necessarily follow my path, people should also not necessarily go away from this forum, but it is certainly interesting to hear about different experiences. What is not interesting, I agree with this, is to push ones path onto others and say "i did this or that, so trust me this is the true path you should follow".

In Topic: What is worse than, to have this disorder for 50 years?

18 December 2020 - 03:56 PM

Having this disorder for 10 years was worse than my best friend killing himself.

I relate very much. Now I am doing better, but in general I would make a similar comparison. I lost my best friend in a car accident, I cried for a month, I took a year to recover and still it wasn't as bad as my DPDR. And I hate it that so few people understand. A (ex)friend of mine, who even studied psychology, told me bluntly that I don't have anything, I just read the symptoms somewhere online and thought I had it.


In Topic: Enlightenment's Evil Twin

18 December 2020 - 12:13 PM

I agree with this. I have practiced meditation for several years, including near month long retreats, originally in an attempt to feel less derealization, and what it brought me did not feel like an antidote to derealization. I felt more present, I had a clearer vision of what was happening in my mind or around me, but I was still detached from things. I don't think it helped my DR at all. To me these are two separate things. But I have read that some people could reduce stress thank to meditation and did experience less DP/DR.