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#1 pasha


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Posted 03 October 2019 - 10:16 AM

my mom was on trip two weeks ago and since then i bevame a mess mentaly idk if i became paychotic to deeply depressed and now my mom came back and my dad wants to go on trip tomorrow i talk to him but he is not canceling it im so paranoid stuck in home afraid if he is gone i commite suicide or go to paychward they know i become triggetrd and paniky whn they are away but they dont lestin im afrid if i do something crazy for not letting him go

#2 Al_pk


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Posted 03 October 2019 - 12:14 PM

Hi Pasha. Unfortunately as adults we cannot rely on others, even our parents, for the way we feel. Dp is a journey down a deep dark hole but even i that hole, we are responsible for ourselves and the outcomes we want. What relaxes you? What do you enjoy? I'll tell you of i had a free house for the day I'd let it all hang out. Workouts, pizza and 24 hours of xbox. It's all perspective

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Posted 03 October 2019 - 07:30 PM

Ok, listen. Your SCARED that if they go, youll do something crazy. Firstly, the fact you are able to recognize certain things as scary and crazy means you wont do them. No matter how much panic your mind is exposed to, itll never do something like make you kill yourself. Not even psychotic people do that (unless they are depressed) your SCARED to die, your scared to be alone. Your perfectly sane to have these thoughts butyour letting them rule your life. Listen, ive been where you are once but youve got to realize that anxiety and dissociation dont rule your decisions. Your not gonna go crazy and kill yourself. If you had gone crazy, you wouldnt even be on this forum. Yes, the things you experiance with dp SEEM crazy and scary at first. But despite how crazy you feel, your perfectly sane because your checking yourself. Sanity checking is something ONLY a sane person can do.

Your surgery recently mightve been the cause yes, but your not in some comatose state. Surgery can cause dp/dr though its not the most common cause. Dp/dr is caused bt stress or chemical changes in your body. Your surgery may have done one or both those things. Surgerys are stressful! I dont blame for freaking out about the dpdr, its incredibly surreal and crazy and scary.

My advice? Sit down and read a book, or meditate, get a project going, do something thatll distract you from this for a little at least. I know its hard but you need to learn to not rely on other people to make you feel better. This is very hard to do, i know. But your parents wont be around forever plus you have a separate life from them.

#4 Fromhollandwithlove


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Posted 04 October 2019 - 05:23 AM

Pasha, you have been flooding this forum for about 7-8 consecutive days now. Everyone here has been telling you that you are suffering from severe anxiety. No psychotic stuff or anything else besides ANXIETY. Anxiety gives you the feeling of going crazy, but you are not, okay? Now if you don't trust us, then seek medical support from a professional, because no matter what we say, you keep refering to psychosis or other stuff you DON'T HAVE. 


Don't get me wrong, we wanna help you out, but for us to help you, you got to atleast start trusting us and start listening.. I feel for you, because having this much anxiety is horrible, It might even be worse then being psychotic because then atleast you won't know something is wrong (and medication will get you out of a psychosis fast). 


What I would suggest (and this is sololy my opinion) is for you to go see a professional and ask for something that can calm you down (maybe a short term benzo, don't make the mistake that I did and take it long term). You're anxiety seems out of control and I think taking something that relaxes you can give you some time to think rationally and figure out what next steps to take. 


Take care and stay safe. 

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Posted 04 October 2019 - 11:35 AM

you can't ask others to make unreasonable sacrifices due to your illness. You have to make efforts to cope with uncomfortable situations.  It will be difficult.  Many of us have been there, and worked through it.

It just has to be done.

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