Might be a good idea to have a talk to Joan Smith ... She's had this disorder. She's recovered and offering to help people. Here's a link with some details -
You're not stuck in anything. Your mind, feelings, thoughts, are all yours. You may not accept them as a part of yourself but what you are feeling inside of you is very real.
Maybe you should confront your emotions and trace them back to where they came from and allow your mind to decide rather or not these feelings are acceptable.
When I think about something a sense of feeling usually follows thought.
You can think about an apple and a sense of feeling accommodates it. What I do after that is follow the feeling.
Thoughts can allude you to different places but I don't think feelings can because they are a part of who you are. Thinking only helps study what you are already feeling.
I don't know. I'm a bit confused and I apologize. What if you do not know what caused it. Like I broke up with my boyfriend of 5 years and started dating someone else.... is that traumatic?
I don't know. I'm a bit confused and I apologize. What if you do not know what caused it. Like I broke up with my boyfriend of 5 years and started dating someone else.... is that traumatic?
What's traumatic to me and what's traumatic to you are different.
Something can be traumatic to you while I can brush it off. Same goes vice-versa. If you think it was traumatic you should try to reflect on how you felt when you broke up with him. It may be so subtle that you may actually not even realize how much of an impact it had on you. It may even be very painful. The point is to reflect.
But yes IMO breaking up with something after that long can be very traumatic and difficult but it's usually because there are other variables in yourself which you are still allowing to linger on without self-reflection. Think of someone who eats cake everyday out of sheer pleasure but neglects in the long-run how much this will impact his health in the future.
The same thing applies to anyone living in a bad environment/being around people who make them feel bad/etc. It actually applies in all areas of life.
"The unexamined life is not worth living."
Socrates
Now think about him and try to look through his eyes to see how you behaved/felt and how what you did affected him. This will lead you to a truth about yourself.
I hurt him. I hurt him really bad. I could still cry about it to this day. It kills to be honest but who would ever want to think about that?? I have to see him every day at work and he doesn't look in my direction. He hates me even though I would love nothing more then to just say hi how are you. He has a child now a gf. I'm happy for him though..
I hurt him. I hurt him really bad. I could still cry about it to this day. It kills to be honest but who would ever want to think about that?? I have to see him every day at work and he doesn't look in my direction. He hates me even though I would love nothing more then to just say hi how are you. He has a child now a gf. I'm happy for him though..
See that's the thing. You're choosing to run away from that.
You're not facing what you did to him. And what you did to him was something a part of yourself that is true and is hiding.
It's something that "killed" you but it's also something that killed him. Something that killed what he felt for you that is also a part of yourself when you broke up with him.
You need to dig deeper.
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