First of all, sorry that I was a litte bit late with my response. But I have some depressed days, because of the unreal feelings.
And thank you so much for your long explanation !!!
Hihi, you have changed your name from Willwin into AylaStar. That's a nice name.
I began to recognize that no matter how bad and intense the feelings were, that they weren't able to shoot out of me or actually do any damage.
Yes, I know it is true. The feelings doesn't any damage. But I am often so tired, because of the unreal feeling...
I still have anxiety and DP/DR, but it was through the depths of the pain from it that I was able to make a breakthrough. I was having an episode and I faced it head-on for the first time. I actually FELT myself working through something.
Wooow, that is clever of you...
I know now, from this experience that there IS a way to work through stuff. Before, I always wanted to but didn't know how.
So I am... I am also researching how to beat this unreal feeling / anxiety ....
Like with most things we have to hit a bottom and then become open-minded and willing.
You have said that right .
Don't worry about the acceptance yet, that will come, just focus on the actions.
Oké, but sometimes I doubt if distractions helps me in the future not to feeling unreal.
When it hits you hard, instead of reacting, try sitting with it. Get still and allow yourself to feel the horrible, painful feelings. You will be surprised with how strong you are and what your body and mind can handle.
Okeeeeeee.... So, the best thing I can do is sitting down and let the fear comes over me...
Thanks a lot for the video !!!
So you must travel through the anxiety to be fully free of it... So you must trying to letting be the anxiety over you... And you demand for more anxiety.... It sounds a little bit strange...
But when you don't beating the fear, the fear will decrease... Something like this ???
I should explain that I believe DP/DR to be a (HUGE, debilitating, all encompassing, intense, and dysfunctional) symptom of anxiety/PTSD.
Yes, I understand. After a lot of years I know that this unreal feeling is a symptom of anxiety or a trauma.
Do not focus or feed the negative thoughts or even try to explore them.
I also have to learn to think positive... I have a lot of negative thoughts... .
Part of our healing process is to change our perceptions AND how we think.
Sooo, yeah, but it is so difficult to change our mind about depersonalisation. I have tried a lot of therapies, but it doesn't help...
I hope I can learn from you .
We have to consciously motivate ourselves to focus on something else (something positive hopefully) like video games, a book, music, movies, a conversation with someone, the internet, the chat room here, ANYTHING.
When I am trying to distract myself, the depersonalisation is still there... ... So, this is so difficult for me, to believe in this distraction. But maybe I have still social anxiety and therefore I have still depersonalisation... ???
Now I am playing Candy Crush, hihi. Maybe this will help with the distraction, hihi.
You said: "Keep in mind we are NOT trying to push the negative thoughts away. That never works."
Oke, I understand. It is strange, but a psychologist said to me, that when I am trying NOT tho think about a pink elephant... you must THINK about a pink elephant. So, thus you must not try, not to think about depersonalisation / negative thoughts.
Yes, I understand. It feels impossible to focus on something else with the depersonalisation.
When I am thinking, that I think of something else, I still have depersonalisation... Can you still follow me ?
It is so difficult to trying thinking of something else, when I am thinking it doesn't work to get out of the depersonalisation... .
I hope you can support me .
Thanks a lot !!!
Greeting from little star, from The Netherlands.