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#1 lost235

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Posted 25 November 2020 - 02:13 PM

Hi. So this is probably another symptom that lots of people have and I’ll just have to wait it out, but it’s really bugging me. I can no longer spend time with anyone but myself because everyone else feels unreal. I can’t feel their presence, it’s like I’m looking at a hologram or something. I’ve tried to interacts with my family but they feel so fake, it’s scaring me so much. I guess this is just another rant, but this symptom is by far one of the worst I’ve had. Because my family doesn’t look real, there’s no way I can get to school either. And I can’t talk to my parents about it because it’s like speaking to aliens. I just feel so claustrophobic, I’m not sure what to do. Once again I end up feeling like I’ve lost my mind entirely. I feel myself panicking even walking into a room where someone. Not sure how much more of this I can take. It’s getting real hard trying to fight my way out of this. Has anyone else felt this way?

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Posted 25 November 2020 - 03:39 PM

I feel like I reply to every one of your posts lol. But once again I and im sure a lot of other people can relate. People looking like holograms is exactly how I would describe it. I look at people and it's like my eyes are deceiving me; my vision tells me they are right there but I am convinced that they are not. It feels lonely. The very people that you would normally confide in feeling unfamiliar to you is one of the worst things about DPDR in my opinion. There's no safety anywhere. 

 

All I can say is you have to force yourself to interact and be in the presence of people. Not eye opening advice I know, but thats the thing with this disorder- the way out is rather simple; Just keep living as fruitful as a life you can. I feel like what we are essentially accomplishing when we do this is we are relearning the human experience. This disorder sends us outside of reality, and when we peer back in it all looks confusing, pointless, and terrifying. We have to relearn how to understand life at the human level again. How to value and appreciate everything how it should be valued and appreciated. So, try to keep interacting with people, as hard as it is. I remember you saying that isolation made it worse for you, you don't wanna go down that path again.



#3 lost235

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Posted 25 November 2020 - 04:37 PM

I feel like I reply to every one of your posts lol. But once again I and im sure a lot of other people can relate. People looking like holograms is exactly how I would describe it. I look at people and it's like my eyes are deceiving me; my vision tells me they are right there but I am convinced that they are not. It feels lonely. The very people that you would normally confide in feeling unfamiliar to you is one of the worst things about DPDR in my opinion. There's no safety anywhere.

All I can say is you have to force yourself to interact and be in the presence of people. Not eye opening advice I know, but thats the thing with this disorder- the way out is rather simple; Just keep living as fruitful as a life you can. I feel like what we are essentially accomplishing when we do this is we are relearning the human experience. This disorder sends us outside of reality, and when we peer back in it all looks confusing, pointless, and terrifying. We have to relearn how to understand life at the human level again. How to value and appreciate everything how it should be valued and appreciated. So, try to keep interacting with people, as hard as it is. I remember you saying that isolation made it worse for you, you don't wanna go down that path again.


Hii! Yes you reply to a lot of my posts, but then again I do post a lot haha, I appreciate you trying to help:)
It’s just like that, my eyes tell me they’re right there but my brain convince me they’re not. It’s been pretty lonely. Cause now I not only feel lonely just mentally, but also i have a physical feeling like I’m the only person on earth. It’s so so so terrifying and lonely. I’ve never thought of it, but it hit me that it really is.

You’re totally right. I mean I know that’s what I need already, but for some reason I feel a need of constant reassurance that that’s gonna help. I feel like that’s why I post here so much, because I need someone to confirm that I’m not alone and that I should keep doing the things that I did before. Maybe I need to work on that. But the way you describe it, to lose the sense of reality and then having to make sense of it when coming back again, is spot on what I struggle with. I’ve been isolating in my room for quite a while, I’ll try to get out and talk with someone.

Thanks again for the response, you have no idea how much it helps.

#4 heneluna

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Posted 25 November 2020 - 06:21 PM

Just for some reassurance;

 

I've definitely felt this way before as well. Everything/ everyone just feels kind of "ghostly"? I remember crying and isolating myself because I believed everyone was a robot.. just a lot of paranoia as well. What got me out of it was social interaction and recognizing that this is just a symptom of this dumb disorder. It is hard but try not to isolate yourself please!! Isolation is detrimental to mental health even without dpdr. Even though others might not feel real to you, getting used to being among people, seeing them, hearing others conversations, and talking to others makes a drastic difference over time. Personally, a good laugh with someone has always made me feel a bit more connected.

 

It's super hard to be around people in the beginning and is really panic inducing, but I'm telling you, it will help you get better. Baby steps. 

 

You're not alone. 






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